[ChevyChick68]

I've been married two years and I haven't been in love with him for over a year. I think we've had sex 3 times since we got married. The lack of intimacy is killing me.. but every time I try to make myself attracted to him my stomach churns. It's not that he is unattractive.. it's just that the way he treated me in our first year really, permanently, turned me off. Leaving isn't an option because every time I even mention a divorce he goes off the deep end. Before we married I tried to break up with him once and he laid in the middle of the road sobbing until I literally drug him out of it so he wouldn't get run over. I can't just leave because I'm worried what he would do to himself and besides, I have two dogs that mean the world to me and the homeless shelter won't let me bring pets. I'm trying to find a job but I am partially disabled and in this economy it's an uphill battle finding work for anyone.. still, I AM trying. So I have to try to force myself back in love.. but I really don't know how? Have any of you fallen back in love with your significant other? How did you do it?

[swt1899]

I don't think you should force yourself to do anything. You need to think about yourself and your emotional well being. I think you need to separate yourself from this unhealthy relationship. Otherwise you will never know true marital happiness.