[QueenAngie]

So many ladies have miscarriages and years ago,
it was not discussed or talked about in polite discussions.

It simply occured and the grieving mother and father
at times needed support and it was not available through family, friends, or even the church.
People did not know what to say or to do to help.

Here are some good suggestions to help your family or friends through this grieving process:

1) Offer to listen.
Do not talk about your own m/c. Just listen.

2) Acknowledge the loss. Say, "I'm sorry." Just 2 words.

3) Bring over supper, a casserole, a cake.

4) Offer to answer the telephone or open cards of sympathy. Be a secretary to help.

5) Give a warm hug & a cup of hot tea.

6) Just be there to be supportive and show you care.

7) Offer a memory book,
planting a rose bush,
planting a tree,
make a scrapbook for the grieving Mom & Dad.

Send flowers to the Mom & Dad.

9) Prayers are always helpful.

Can you add more to this list?

[shellyhudson]

The only thing that I can add is not to forget that the father has just lost a child as well. So many times the father's pain and suffering in not realized or dismissed because it wasn't his body that sheltered the baby. Father's too grieve at the loss of a child no matter at what point the loss occurs.

Shelly

[KR258]

Purchase a teddy bear the same size as you baby, it will give you something to hug during those difficult days

[QueenAngie]

KR258 and Shelly, thank you for sharing those ideas.

We all need to support friends and family during the time of a M/C and afterwards too.