[edgardo]

This is a very sensitive subject for men and I would like to hear opinions for both men and women? I have been suffering from ED for the past 3 months and this had never happened in the past. Since then my wife and I have not had intercourse. I do not know how to tell her and will be asking my doctor for some sort of solution, Cialis or Viagra perhaps.

My questions are:
1) How should a man break this to his wife wothout feeling humiliated?
2) Does anyone know any good websites with information on Erectile Dysfunction?

Thanks in advance for your help.

[QueenAngie]

This can be a difficult subject to approach.
Don't you think she perhaps may guess that something is amiss,
when you have not been together for over 3 months?

Go see your physician, it could be related to your medications,
blood pressure or any other item.

Yes, you do need to tell your wife and seek medical treatment
together.
Make certain that your doctor tells you any and all side effects
of medications, should you decide to start taking any new meds.

Wishing you all the best!

[browneyes01]

well you are in a loving realtionship with your wife I would assume, so I can't see why she wouldn't understand what you are going through. Further more what if she is internalizing the fact that you haven't had sex for the past three months. I think maybe you should bring your wife with you to your next dr visit so that she can become aware of the dysfunction and gets the tools she needs to deal with it and help you deal with it.

[edgardo]

Thanks for your responses. Yes, my wife and I are in a loving relationship and I have come to the conclusion on telling her this week, but it will be difficult. I am a man and it is very hard for us to admit that we are less of one due to this

I have been looking and researching allot online about treatments, everything from pumps to natural herbs and even Viagra. I will be discussing them all next week with my doctor and think I will ask him if Cialis is a good option, compared to Viagra it lasts for 2 days, this article helped Viagra vs Cialis. I will update everyone on this issue but just wanted to get some points of view! I have never been so embarrased, this is really hard for a man, I just hope my wife will not feel let down.

Thanks

[Samual]

I have it due to the mumps, cialis is known to cause bladder and kidney infections. I've been using viagra since it was approved for public use, I have never had any side effects from it, I tried cialis almost a year ago now and had constant muscle cramps and migraines. You have to have a prostate test, but that you can ask for that to be done with ultrasound, you have to have an STI test as well as some can cause disfunction, even if you tell them you've never been sexually active they still make you have one, which I think is really annoying.

You can get implants, its an operation and they insert, which looks like a longer version of the female implanon, but obviously things don't get bigger.

If you are too embarrassed to sit down and tell her you can always print off a fact sheet and give her that instead.

[edgardo]

Wow! did not know you have to have all this done. I will cross out the operation, do not want to go that route. I will look into Viagra more now that you mention it, thanks for those pointers and I will research more now. Thanks so much.

[Samual]

Originally Posted by edgardo

Wow! did not know you have to have all this done. I will cross out the operation, do not want to go that route. I will look into Viagra more now that you mention it, thanks for those pointers and I will research more now. Thanks so much.

There are quite a few physical issues that can cause it, especially back injuries.

[edgardo]

Really, back injuries? I have muscle spasms in my upper and lower back 2 times a month! Thanks for mentioning that another thing to put on my list of questions for the doctor

[frdsmth9]

I am one guy who has this problem and i recently got married,i was thinking how to discuss the problem with her, got some ideas after visiting this post .

[LarryJameson]

Erectile dysfunction is a medical condition like a broken arm. You'd tell your life partner about a broken arm. It doesn't make you less of a person, nor does ED make you less of a person.
Explaining to your partner that you're visiting the doctor to find a solution to the "disruption" in your life will calm her fears as to why the disruption occured. And it will let her know that you are taking action to restore your relationship.