[wannabesupermom]

Hello,

my son is now 8 years old and my husband (stepfather) has been around and helped raising my son ever since he was 1 year old. My son's biological father has never been around or contacted us before.

The relationship between my husband and my son is excellent. Eventhough they look so different from each other and they also have different skin color, but to my son that's his DAD. Now, my problem is that I've never talked to my child about his biological father before and also never had a discussion with him about stepparents. I'm also not certain if my son knows that that's not his real father!!!!!????

Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to hide anything from my son and I want him to know the truth but I just don't know how to.......

Base on their looks, I know that he will know/recognizes eventually (if that's not already the case) that my husband is not his father, but should I pick up the topic and talk to him about the situation or should I just wait until he comes to me with the question? When is the right time to talk to your child about something like that? How old should your child be for this sort of conversation?

Every advice is greatly appreciated.