[sheep29]

Sorry, that head line seems to look like Im beating her. Well far from it, just like every thing else if you give it a good name more people will open it or take a look.


And to me this is the most important part of my life!


So you are not getting a storm, you are getting a cry for help…

I am 29 male and was in a relationship for 7 years and we have a daughter that is, will be 5 on the 23rd. We made the split August, 06 and having no where for me to land but back at my parents. Most know you cant be a parent being parented it just starts getting messed up so the tension is high. There are court issues going on making it worse.

I have been thinking and look at homes a state away but with in a hour and a half away. There are other reasons for a move like this but also I can’t afford the area in which I am in now.

I see her a few hours a day 3-4 a week and every other weekend. May I also add her mother has never been able to relate to kids and it shows with her pawning her off so she can go out, even to the mall! She can’t go any where with her. When we were together my daughter was my side kick at all times and the only time she wasn’t with me is when I worked or when running whitewater that only was done early mornings a maybe 2 time a month.
Our time has been cut back 10 fold and had a period of 2 months not seeing her at all, her mother sent her to grandmas.

Im going to push for a every weekend stay with me which I think her mother will be more then willing to do since she can spend more time with her new boyfriend. But she is hold my daughter against me just to try to hurt me.

But HOW is this going to effect my daughter, me moving away????
My parents are saying “I’m Leaving her behind” which I will never do and putting a gilt trip on me say how sad she’s going to be.
I need to start a new life and I want to be able to show my daughter what a really home family life is like.

How will this affect her?

Will it be easier for her now or when she is older?
”I would think now would be better then older, she will know more about what is happening at a older age, right?”

Right now with all this going on she seems happy, shes not around us fighting. But will kids hide their feelings or is she covering it?


I don’t know what to do and I do not want to hurt her or have her feel im running away.