[kalhayd2]

Originally Posted by Samual

Here, people have two parents who are both expected to be there from the start.

You always make the UK sounds like it's a totally different planet, Samual. I don't think husbands lack of attendance for OB appts means they're not going to be active particpants in their child(s) life. My husband didn't go to many of our appts- but I prefered it that way. I'd rather save his time off for the more important stuff- like the birth, recovery, etc.

To answer your question- I'd be pissed, too, if a man impregnanted me and I was left to do the single parent thing. She isn't the only guilty party, ya know. Your "dh" happily knocked her up- twice- or he had an affair enough times to question the paternity. Hope things get figured out for the babys sake.

[tevan]

we are all guilty to a point. It is part my fault they ever even got together. Those who think i don't feel horrible for the things that have happened are wrong. I don't believe my daughter should lose her father to another child because We had a rough time for a while. This woman knew he was married. she even knew that he wanted me back. getting pregnant twice was a pretty ****ty way to try and keep him. Since none of you know this bipolar woman none of you know what she has done to other people. Her four year old son has a pacemaker because she chose painkillers and alcohol to cure stress during pregnancy. she now blames it on the doctors. When she fought with her son's father, she would throw an inanimate object at the wall then call the cops and say that he threw her into the wall. She is trouble and i am tired of defending myself to her as if i were the one who doesn't know how to use birth control, or choose men that are actually available. My family will be punished because of a spring fling forever. I might add i don't ever want to hurt that little girl that has been born into this fight.

[kalhayd2]

I guess my point was she didn't get pregnant alone- so as shi$ty as it seems- your "DH" was an active particpant.
I guess you'll have to figure out something mutal if the little girl is his. I am not saying that he should leave you AGAIN- but it's not fair for babies being born Just my 10 cents worth.

[browneyes01]

I agree all you can do is wait becasue you have obviously decided to stick by your husband. I suggest that when this baby is born you have a paternity test to rule out whether your husband is the father or not if he isn't then you won't have this women in your life but if he is the father you need to think of how you can allow your husband to be a father to this child while still staying with you it will be difficult but it works for many families. If he is the father he needs to figure out how he is going to take care of this child.

[JeanLynn81]

Misplaced anger. Don't let your disgust for this other woman override how badly your husband hurt you! Have you and dh attended marriage counseling?

[Samual]

Originally Posted by tevan

we are all guilty to a point. It is part my fault they ever even got together. Those who think i don't feel horrible for the things that have happened are wrong. I don't believe my daughter should lose her father to another child because We had a rough time for a while. This woman knew he was married. she even knew that he wanted me back. getting pregnant twice was a pretty ****ty way to try and keep him. Since none of you know this bipolar woman none of you know what she has done to other people. Her four year old son has a pacemaker because she chose painkillers and alcohol to cure stress during pregnancy. she now blames it on the doctors. When she fought with her son's father, she would throw an inanimate object at the wall then call the cops and say that he threw her into the wall. She is trouble and i am tired of defending myself to her as if i were the one who doesn't know how to use birth control, or choose men that are actually available. My family will be punished because of a spring fling forever. I might add i don't ever want to hurt that little girl that has been born into this fight.

She knew your husband was married yes, but he was one the one going off and having sex with god knows who! If you want someone back, you don't get in bed with the first woman you see. Also, you should probably introduce your husband to a wonderful device called a condom, oddly enough when you don't use contraception you get pregnant, ignorance is not a plea. This is not this womans fault, your husband chose to be unfaithful, don't take hurt or anger out on anybody but him.

If he is the bio father, he needs to step up and raise his daughter.

[Tracey with 6]

HAs paternity been established yet?
BTW my dh ahs never attende any OB appointments with me, he has to work.

[MaMaMuDa]

My heart goes to you. It is not easy to accept the fact that your beloved husband has a child with another woman. Of course you will feel somewhat insecure. But think about this,as long as your husband is fulfilling his duties towards your family, I dont think its a thread.You can get a restraining order from the court if the lady keeps bugging your life.Otherwise,you shouldnt be worried about anything.