[sbrowno]

I am recenlty married and the stepmother of an 8-year old girl. On a nightly basis her father spends about 15 mintues in her bed until she falls alseep. Also on a nightly basis she comes into our room in the middle of the night to have him come back into her bed. He typically will spend another 15-minutes until she falls alseep, however on occassion has fallen asleep and ends up spending the rest of the night with her. I've expressed my concern over this and have asked it to stop. It is creating a feeling of competition between me an my step-daugher. Although I don't blame her, I have developed very negative feeling toward her which I have tried hard not to express.
My husband has agreed that she is too old for this and has told her he will no longer lay in bed with her. This lasted one night and she is back in our room in the middle of the night and back in her bed. Not only do I find this inappropriate, but it has also sends her a message that what he says does not count. There needs to be boundries set, but my husband is not living up to what we agreed on. Any advice?