[MissyChrissy]

Friday I had to work till 5:00, then do my weekly shopping, which always takes 3 hours or so. I didn't get home until 8:30 for the first time...and I was exhausted.

At 9:20 pm my daughter called me & asked if I was going to come pick her up. I knew she was at a school dance, and that it got over at 9:00 pm. What was I thinking? I FORGOT my daughter...and even though I know I have a lot going on, and I'm super busy, I can't get over it. What if someone took her? I'd NEVER forgive myself.

I'm really getting depressed about it and worried that I'm really going to forget something super important again. I'm worried something is going to happen, and it'll be all my fault.

[poohsbrana]

That happens to the best of people. Get on of those dry erase boards that are a calendar. Write important stuff down on the calendar and check it everynight.
As for the feeling bad stuff. Its okay, your only human and no one expects you to be super mom. No one got your daughter and thats the good thing, just keep that in your mind.

[MissyChrissy]

I don't think a white board would have helped me I KNEW I had to get her. At 8:30 when I got home, I looked at the clock & even had a mental thought, "Good, I have 1/2 hour to put the groceries away"

But you're right...no one did get her, and I should just take comfort in that. I keep thinking that my kids should always come first, and everything else is less important, so I should forget school work or something else instead!

[mcmama]

So, let me get this straight.

You're a bad mom because you were not in the pick up line for the school dance at johnny on the spot 9 pm.

You remembered you had to do this at 8:30 but then your brain remembered all the other things you had to do which did not include going to the spa, getting your nails done, or watching your favorite video and eating chunkymonkey ice cream with a brandy chaser.

Instead, your brain melted in the frenzy of putting away groceries which you bought when you were already exhausted.

But your daughter called. This is because you have enabled her to have a cell phone, you are available to call, and you have taught her well.

Bad mom? Where???

[MissyChrissy]

Because I forgot her. Period.


but thanks for that...Hopefully I'll get over it soon. It's been eating at me-especially when I'm alone-and bringing tears to my eyes. I mean, really bugging me.

[poohsbrana]

Forgetting her would be, 2 am and having 8 missed calls on your cell phone. It slipped your mind.

[KR258]

I don't think you're a bad mom. I think you just have so much on your mind and everything you listed yourself doing was for your family. It is understandable to be so tired you can forget even the most important things. I am very glad she called you and didn't just walk home like my sister did when my mom forgot her once. I am sorry for how you must be feeling though. Try not to think of yourself as a bad mom though, you're just too busy.

[mcmama]

Yeah, this is really not forgetting her. One thing just follows another.

When I was a child care provider, I used to have a recurring nightmare. People would come to pick up their baby and I would forget what I did with the baby. In fact, I would not be able to remember ever having taken care of this baby. Now, the baby in the dream would always turn up in a weird place - under the deck, behind a bush, in a closet - or the variation would be that I would discover thebaby and be racing to clean it up before the parents came.

Actually, that never happened - I was pretty obsessive about where everyone was. But that wasn't at 8:30 pm.

[QueenAngie]

(((Hugs)))

You are being waaay too hard on yourself. It was a momentary lapse of memory after a long, very busy day.

Your daughter called and you picked up the phone. You went to get her.

Your daughter is safe and your are a good Mom!

[2girls]

You are absolutely NOT a bad mom.
A bad mother wouldn't be posting here and feeling the way you do....right??