[shadowswanson]

Well my husband just left to eygpt. We have been having problems in our marriage for quite some time now. We have a 1 year old son together and he hardly takes care of him. So he has been in counseling for his anger problems. When he goes to counseling he blames all of his problems on everyone else but himself. He lies to me constantly and always blames everything on me. He blames our son coming out 3 months early on me, our son getting RSV on me, my son coughing up blood on me, our son spending about a week in the hostpital on me, and many other things. Well when he left to eygpt Monday morning he left me with no money and no vehicle. He took the vehicle on base and parked it there. He made sure that I dont have any keys to our vehicle. Then he calls me today and tells me that I have to find a way to pay all of our bills or our marriage is over. Paying all of our bills is a little hard on the income that he is bringing in. We wont have enough money to pay all of the bills. I am a really worried that if I dont find a way to pay all our bills on the 1st of November that our marriage will be over. I really dont know what I should do anymore. Can someone please help me?
Shadow Swanson

[purelegance]

he's already walked out on the marriage, i recommend getting a lawyer & having all of the bills placed purely on him/his credit.

[poliscmjr]

Have you tried going to counseling together? It might help bring you closer together. As far as the bills go maybe you can call the companies and have the dates changed so that the income coming in can be spread a little farther.

[smd7664]

I can tell that you truly love this man and rely on him. But your DH wants nothing to do with your marriage or controlling his anger. He does not want to change or care enough to try. I know you have a child and have vowed to be in this marriage through thick and thin BUT you do NOT deserve this. You and your son deserve better! In his mind, (just by what you wrote) he is divorced and wants to be. I say get a lawyer with his money that you have to pay the bills...call the companies and let them know you have hit a hardship and move out before he gets back. This isn't just about you anymore...it is about your child. Do you want your child to grow up and treat women like your DH treats you?? Do you want him to have anger issues?? They only avoidance of this is to getting out of the horrible situation you are in. Move in with family til you can get on your feet and so you have some support. You have to make this choice for yourself and remind yourself that this is for the better of you and your son. Oh, and don't forget in the divorce to get alimoney and child support!! Good Luck and stay strong!!

[MiaCamille]

Do you really want him to come back? do you really need someone who doesn't care about you or your son? i'm sorry for being so harsh but he's gone and you should celebrate not cry over him he isn't worth it at all. You can do much better on your own. Good luck.

[2girls]

I agree with the previous posts. Take this time to gather your thoughts and figure out what is best for you and your son. From what I can see, he isn't what you or your son need.