03-18-2008, 05:16 PM
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I got comforting words that I just wanted to share...
I think this same thing goes for anyone who has lost someone. It just helped to hear it. I don't know why. I hope maybe it might help someone else out there who's feeling the same things I am.
You have come a long way and I witnessed tremendous strength within you on the day we met so I know you can get through this. That doesn't mean it won't be difficult and at times it may even feel like you cannot go on even one more day feeling the way you do. Grief is like the ocean....it is vast and its end seems never in sight. The pain comes in waves, some bigger than others. Some waves overtake you and you feel like you cannot breathe, while others just threaten to temporarily push you over! Like the waves in the ocean, grieve will come and go. Just when you think the water is calm, another wave will come your way -- maybe something someone says causes it, or maybe it is an anniversary day, or maybe there is no reason at all. This is all normal.
You have been through a lot in the past year. You got pregnant and whether planned or unplanned, there was a lot of anticipation and excitement, and then suddenly that was all gone. Not only do you grieve the loss of the pregnancy and all that went with it, but then you also had to see your beautiful baby boy and wonder what he would have been like and who he would have looked like. You held him, you loved him and still continue to love him yet there are so few memories of him to comfort you when you are sad and missing him. And through all of this, you have to be a mom to your little girl and smile even when you want to cry. You have to be a wife to your husband.
Kara, you have been through so much! It will take time and nurturing before you feel like you have reached a new "normal" for your life. But you are strong and you will make it! Many women feel the same things you are telling me about now.
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