[NoRain]

but I'm not so I'm gonna go to work now and sit all night thinking of how unhappy I am that I was not born into wealth. Sorry this would have been longer if I had more time.

[hennypenny]

You will find many of us SAHM's aren't wealthy by any stretch of the imagination. I've always said it wouldn't matter how broke I was (and I have been), I will always stay home for my kids. If you want something in life, take it!

[Alejandros Mommy]

Ditto....most SAHM do not come from wealth. My huband and I both agreed that it would be better if I stayed at home with the kids. Its something that I have wanted to do. With my 1st child, I was a single working and going to school mom. I know how hard it is to leave your child at daycare and go to work BUT staying at home is a lot of work too! I am constantly on the go with my kids. Taxi'ing them around while doing errands. I work just as hard as any work outside the home mom.

We also budget..we know how much $ we have to spend and our Food,mortgage and bills come first. I guess it just depends what you are willing to live without or if you can really afford it.

[kimchee67]

Originally Posted by NoRain

but I'm not so I'm gonna go to work now and sit all night thinking of how unhappy I am that I was not born into wealth. Sorry this would have been longer if I had more time.

I definately feel that way too sometimes now that I've gone back to work. I also know how hard it is to stay home too though. Right now DF is the stay at home parent. Sometimes I'm jealous, but other times I'm glad that I get the time out of the house. I hope you feel better, since no matter what you do it's so hard!

[mumi_mckay]

i am able to stay at home financially but i chose to go back to work when eli was 5 mths old. being at home all day everyday, doing house work, cooking etc when that is all you do i found i was going insane but then i found work i could do at home which is awesome.

[VinniesMommy]

I am a SAHM mom, and until hubby got a raise, we were living in a one bedroom apartment with 2 kids... it's not fun by any means, but it's what we had to do so that I could stay home. You might be able to stay home, you just have to scrip with A LOT of things... I'm sorry that you are sad

[MiaCamille]

i agree with the ladies above, you're far from rich when you stay at home but it's so much better than working, can you find some work to do at home? I babysit on school days by offering lunches and also after school, i also do some translation on the computer for dh's office so that brings in a little extra also. If you really want it go for it...

[purelegance]

We're not close to wealthy (in fact, i can't tell you how much money we owe the hospital). But it's so hard to find a job in our town that pays even $2 over minimum wage (most families have at least 2 jobs). So if i were to go back to work (for just 1 job), i still wouldn't make enough to cover daycare, doctor's visits, etc. So it actually saves us money for me to stay home.

[twinzplus3]

It really is amazing how much it does cost to work. I freelance write from home--so that works well bc I'm not expending extra money to work. It probably doesn't pay as well as what I could make outside the home. . .but I look at my money and add into it the money I'm not spending on child care, clothing, and food. I highly recommend the tightwad gazette. . .the way she looks at money and the things she needs to do to be frugal. . .it would revolutionize the way you're thinking.

[NoRain]

I wrote that last post pretty fast because I was pressed for time. I should clarify something. I did NOT mean to give off the impression that I think SAHM are rich. I personally think in my OWN situation that that is the only way I could ever BE a SAHM. I like buying my son and my family NICE things, which means I have to work and so does my hubby. That was all I was saying. I have no illusions about how SAHMs must sacrifce alot believe me.

I'm sorry if my post came off that way. My SAHM friends would kick my butt if they read that the way some of ya'll did. So I'm sorry. I will amend my statement to say.

If I was rich the first thing I would do is become a SAHM, for ME personally that would be the only way since I refuse to give up the nice things working allows my family.