[peanutsmommy28]

it feels like she thinks she HAS to be in my arms nonstop or she will die. she is only a week and one day old and she already decided she doesn't like her own bed. this JUST started yesterday morning and its already wearing me out. i'm a new, young mother, and i have the baby blues bad. i get upset when i hear her cry, even when i know she just wants to sleep on me and not in her bassinet. i know i am spoiling her by letting her sleep on me, and i can't get any sleep because of it, but i can't ignore her crying. also, i dread when she wants to eat because i'm still getting comfortable doing it. and it seems like if she doesn't want to sleep on me, she wants me to feed her. i could feed her for 45 minutes straight and she will be hungry half an hour later. i got lucky the first nights..she slept straight through the night. of course i will feed her when she is hungry, it just wears me out, especially since everyone tells me i am doing it wrong, so apparently my mother did it wrong for over four years, cuz the same thing happening to me happened to her in the beginning too. if breastfeeding isn't supposed to hurt, doesn't that mean pumping shouldn't hurt? cuz pumping hurts. also, everyone made it seem as if i wasn't going to have a baby until i had regular contractions. once again, my mother had four kids and didn't have regular contractions once, and i didn't have regular contractions at all and i had a baby. i'm just venting, i don't expect any responses. i have baby blues and i'm overwhelmed and frustrated.

[DivasMomma]

(((HUGS)))


It gets better....i know nothing about BFing because I tried once and it hurt me so bad that i quit...so good for you for doing it for a full week!


If the blues keep up, or they start getting worse talk to your doctor. I had PP and its nothing to mess around with!! Medicine does work wonders and I am a great mother now (thanks to my doctor, family, and those magic pills )


I am young too....so if u EVER need to talk please feel free to PM me...I can give you my AIM sn too so we can talk whenever you need to!!!!!!

[mrmnmom82]

Don't concern yourself with "spoiling" a one week old, it's not possible. I hat when people try to tell you that you should put the baby down, because you're going to spoil her. BITE ME!! You do what you think she needs. And speak up when you need help. I agree you should talk to your doctor. You should also mention to your family you are feeling overwhelmed and would like some help, let them do your dishes, laundry, make a few meals for you.

I hope it gets easier. don't try to do this by yourself. Ask for help.

[OliveMarie]

They say breastfeeding doesn't hurt, but it does! I've successfully breastfed three daughters for two years each and am now feeding my 11 month old son and it still hurts once in awhile.
What I learned to do, blues or no blues was just to sit and chill and love the baby and let them nurse as much as they want. Who cares if they're spoiled? Spoil them rotten! Rent 15 movies and nurse all the time, eventually the baby will sleep, then you lay them down. They wake up, hit play!
Rent a video game ( I had never even played on before my first daughter Rose was born, I played Final Fantasy 7 the whole way through in the first few months after she was born), read a novel, a magazine, a tabloid. Get a really good nursing pillow or swing and play around on the computer all day long. Take a walk! That was the only thing that would shut my Maxine up, and she was colicky, cranky and a mess for 5 months!
Remember that this too shall pass and there's so many exciting and wonderful things for you and your baby in the future.

[peanutsmommy28]

my fiance and i bought disposable dishes just so i wouldn't have to do dishes (i don't trust him to do them at all, i'm really picky about it!). i would love for my mom to be around more just to hang out, but they live half an hour away (my mom works full time in the same town as me though), and my dad gets jealous when she spends too much time away from him (he has a lot of mental problems [alcoholic, controlling, paranoid], plus a lot of health problems) so she hardly even gets to enjoy her new granddaughter. she is my biggest supporter and my best friend, and i think us not seeing each other much is making things harder. also, my fiance michael is a full time student and works, so its hard not having him around a lot and i know hes upset about not seeing jocelyn a lot. and his mom...she does more damage than help. she owes michael almost $1,000 just from this summer, and guess what, he and i are broke right now since i've been out of work since july 10th. and she's the kind of woman that tries to tell me how to raise my child. i just can't stand being around her.

did any of you get jealous when other people held your baby? only certain people make me..i guess it's jealous. i don't know, i just feel really hesitant to let them hold her, but i'm fine with other people holding her. i just feel like, she's my newborn, i'm a first time mother, i'm young..i want to be the one that gets to feed her and change her and what not, but these people think they get to do everything that i should be doing at this age. michael's mom actually said, "you need to start pumping a lot more so i can feed her." it's like, okay lady, i'm just getting used to feeding her myself. she is just completely selfish. she shoved a pacifer in my child's mouth when she wasn't even crying. michael and i decided we were going to try things without a pacifier. that really ticked me off, but i feel like if i say anything, i'm going to be guilt tripped somehow, than michael will be guilt tripped, and he will get upset and then he and i will end up being unpleasant to each other cuz i cry over every little thing and he gets short tempered when he and his mom aren't getting along.

wow it feels good to let this out..

[DivasMomma]

you sound A LOT like me

My mom also lives about 30 mins away and doesnt really see the kids often. Her and my father are divorced, but my father is now a recovering Alcoholic (4 yrs now!!!) He jsut moved back in with us which has been a huge help.

My MIL is the same way with being pushy. She has gotten much better since I started opening my mouth, but it was all the same as you in the beginning. You will learn to not hold things back

The baby is only a week old. YOU should be the one feeding and cuddling her. Dont feel you are being selfish. You jsut carried her around in your tummy for 9 months...you DESERVE to do whatever you WANT with her!!!!!!


((HUGS))) Keep letting it out...you will feel much better!

[peanutsmommy28]

is it okay for her to sleep on my chest? i know she isn't supposed to sleep on her tummy in her bassinet or crib, but what about on my chest. i try not to fall asleep with her there so i don't roll over or anything, and so i don't let her lay in bed with me too long, but she always looks so peaceful, i don't want to deny her being that comfortable.

[mrmnmom82]

The only thing wrong with it, is that you can't sleep with her like that. You should try and grab a nap with her when ever you need to. She just wants to be near your heart beat, and the rythme of your breathing. See if she will still sleep in a more comfortable position for you, so you can nap too.

[twinzplus3]

Have you ever heard of co-sleeping? I hesitate to suggest it but. . .

I have co-slept (as in the baby is in bed with me) for all of my children. It is the only thing that allowed me some sleep. Some people swear by it and some people don't--I think whatever gets you more sleep is fine. But yes, it's fine to have the baby in bed with you. It might really help you.

[peanutsmommy28]

are we fine sleeping tummy to tummy?..i know i dozed off the other day when we were laying like this, staring at each others faces..