[Iamreallysad]

Well, this is my first time posting here. I need help. My neice told me today that her dad was molesting her and had been for years. She is 18 now. She called DHR and they told her that there was nothing they could do about it. He has another daughter and they sent someone to his house tonight to investigate. They said she told them nothing had ever happened. They then took my little 9 year old neice to her other grandmothers. My brother cannot contact her or anything like that. I am not sure where I am going with this I am just rambling now.
After they took my youngest neice my brother called and he was bawling his eyes out and crying so hard on the phone and said he swears he has never touched a child in that way. I can't tell my mother about it because she is in bad health and her heart cannot handle it. I fell like I have been put in the middle of something and I don't know ho to believe. My heart is aching for the whole situation.My neice and my brother had an argument on Friday and he took her car away. I kind of think maybe this stems from that. There is another girl in the his wifes family that has now said he did the same thing to her. I just don't know who to believe. I don't know. Has anyone been through something like this? What did you do?

[QueenAngie]

Welcome to the board, Iamreallysad!

What a sad, sad story! My heart aches for you and the entire family also.

Where there is smoke, there is fire.

Maybe it is two teenagers in termoil and emotional issues, the 18 yo niece and the wife's female family member.

Maybe it is that both have been molested by the father.

I'm surprised they told the 18 yo that there was nothing they could do about her situation.
Yet, in order to keep the 9 yo safe, she was removed from the family home.

I know of a family, where the child was molested.
I also know of another family where the teenager cried "wolf"
and the father had to move out of the home for the entire summer,
while family services sorted things out.
Turns out, in the 2nd case, it was a teenager in distress and needing
counseling, but NOT being molested.
Both are very sad, sad stories.

Please keep us posted on how things are going. This will probably take several months for your family.

May God Bless!

[MissyChrissy]

I too find it odd that the 18 year old was told nothing could be done, yet they removed the 9-year-old? Why?

Find counseling for the 18-year-old. In either case (if she's lying, or if it happened) she's going to need it.

I can see your nieces "motive" for making that story up, but what about the other girl? Is she really good friends of your niece? An attention seeker? It's a really difficult position you're in-you don't want to accuse them of lying if they weren't, but unfortunately, too many men get charged for this when they didn't do anything wrong. It ruins their lives.

(((HUGS))) Sometimes, you can just "be there" As little as that sounds, it can be the world to those who need you.

[SueR]

I'm pretty skeptical about claims like this, especially when they appear to have an obvious ulterior motive. So many people have been investigated or even gone to prison because of someone's overactive imagination or outright lies. This seems really, really fishy to me.

[Iamreallysad]

Well it does to me also. Don't get me wrong if my brother did something I 100% believe he should be punishedbut if he did not he should not. The 18 year old does not live with him that was their reasoning for them not doing anything, They told her she needed to go to the police. At any rate I am sick over it. He has no idea that I know who it is. I can't tell him to protect her. It is just that it is ironic that two days after he took her car away and they had a yelling argument she decides to tell this. I just don't know. The other girl and he had a falling out several years ago because she was yelling and hitting on the grandmother. She has made it known that she hated him because he told her he would not put up with her treating his wifes grandmother that way. I will know more a little later today. Thanks for all of the help.

[MissyChrissy]

I am so very very sorry for you. It does sound like this is a huge set up, and sadly, in this day and age with "sexual predator paranoia" your brother really may be up the creek. I wish I had some helpful advice.

Please keep us posted. Perhaps you could talk to a social worker or lawyer and see what can be done.

[lynclarke]

Until you find out otherwise, err on the side of the child. Your brother is an adult, if he has any sense he will know that you have to protect the child.

[Iamreallysad]

He was cleared of all allegations about my 9 year old neice yesterday. They found no signs of abuse. She went home last night just like I figured she would.
To the other part of this. My older neice keeps lying about things. She asked for money yesterday and told me it was for one thing and I guess she forget she had just told me two days ago her mom paid for it. One day I hope she gets all of her stories straight and decides what is true or not. I have caught her in so many lies over the past couple of months it is crazy.
I can't be in this. I have 3 kids of my own and a sick mother to take care of. I can't handle her issues also. Unfortunatly my brother is probably being railroaded for something he did not do.

[katesbirdworld]

If I knew the state, I could read up on the laws and give you further advice. Looks like I did not read all the way down. Sorry. Sounds like your niece has some serious issues and it is best for you to stay out of it before she accuses you of something next. Maybe she has something called. Histrionic Personality Disorder
I used to work for a shrink for 6 years. I am not throwing out diagnosis here. Just a suggestion, since I do not know any of her other symptoms.

Originally Posted by Iamreallysad

Well, this is my first time posting here. I need help. My neice told me today that her dad was molesting her and had been for years. She is 18 now. She called DHR and they told her that there was nothing they could do about it. He has another daughter and they sent someone to his house tonight to investigate. They said she told them nothing had ever happened. They then took my little 9 year old neice to her other grandmothers. My brother cannot contact her or anything like that. I am not sure where I am going with this I am just rambling now.
After they took my youngest neice my brother called and he was bawling his eyes out and crying so hard on the phone and said he swears he has never touched a child in that way. I can't tell my mother about it because she is in bad health and her heart cannot handle it. I fell like I have been put in the middle of something and I don't know ho to believe. My heart is aching for the whole situation.My neice and my brother had an argument on Friday and he took her car away. I kind of think maybe this stems from that. There is another girl in the his wifes family that has now said he did the same thing to her. I just don't know who to believe. I don't know. Has anyone been through something like this? What did you do?