[funnyyetsavvy]

Pathetic to think that this wife is on bed rest hoping and praying for a healthy addition to her family - worrying and trying to focus on the baby....while the guy who got her in that condition is out with her other children.Seems to me you can't keep it in your pants. If you weren't in love with your wife, you shouldn't have created another baby. If you were a real man, you wouldn't have whipped it out with your fellow adulterer. Proud of yourself? Hey, tell you what, drop a line to that woman's husband in the service. I wonder what he'll tell you? Better yet, why don't YOU join the service and serve your county and wonder if your family is ok while you're gone.......A man is living in danger serving his country and you think you're doing your selfish self a favor going after his wife.Get a vasectomy.

[beth]

If you've truly loved this woman for a long time, and she you, then that love will last. In the meantime you have an obligation to all your children, especially your unborn child who needs a calm and healthy mother for optimal brain development to occur and an excellent start in life. However common, it is never healthy to go from one relationship to another without experiencing a period of aloneness. Perhaps you are meant to be with your old friend rather than your wife, but this is not the time to test out that theory. If she loves you, she will wait. If you love her, you will be able to wait and ensure that you have done the best by your wife and children.

[gaby12]

Having a really hard time seeing what your wife, the one on BED REST during pregnancy with YOUR CHILD did wrong. If I read your story correct, you want her to give you things by reading your mind, you don't think you should have to verbalize things to her? Sounds like you have one hell of a nerve, filandering around with a woman who's husband is serving our country. And your adulterous partner has a hell of a nerve sexing you while your wife is on bedrest with your unborn child... It is very immature to rationalize this affair... You made a committment to your wife and so now it is time to be a man, end the affair and then go sit beside your wife and see what you can do to make her more comfortable.

[vwetzel]

I think that for you to REALLY find out what direction you need to take in life, you've got to cut out this "friend". Completely. Call it quits. If she cares about you instead of just looking for someone for right now, she'll understand that you have a life you started that you need to get in order first. Once she's completely out of your life & you've seen your wife through this difficult pregnancy, you'll have had some time to think things through. It's true that you really can't make an informed decision with that interference going on.
This happened to a friend of mine, and she ended up getting divorced and married this guy that was "on the side". Turns out, they were only excited by the "danger" and "fear of getting caught"; that was the only thing that drew them together. Needless to say, that second marriage collapsed quickly, and the kids were thoroughly messed up because they were involved in the goings-on during the first marriage. Just please be careful and thorough in your decision--don't make an already difficult situation worse by acting on the spur of the moment on an important decision like this. Best of luck.

[browneyes01]

Originally Posted by MiaCamille

well just so that i don't say anything that i'll regret i'll keep my thoughts for myself BUT i don't understand that if your wife has been on bedrest for almost 4 years why go and have another pregnancy??? and i think it's sick that you would bring your boys to meet this lady that you're sleeping with and that while your wife is in bed carrying your child.. I'll leave it at that...

I agree if you are going to be unfaithful to your wife who is on bed rest with your child. then you should leave the children out of it, and if you really feel that strongly about this women why not get out of your relationship.

[ayeshamus14]

u should leave your wife 'after she has the baby and is able to stand on her own 2feet.u do know that this will probably end in an ugly divorce batte? and what your children will have to endure because of it? it most probably will end in a divorce either way because it will obviously eventually come out in the end.

and for u to think that what happened/is happening is fine, shows that u seriously couldnt care less about ur wife.so yup, tell her and u will see where things'll carry u from there.if u care about th child she is carrying, dont tell her till its born(i say 'it' because thats all it seems it is to u, a living object) -_-

when ur wife is able to get on her feet again, then leave her.if ur man enough to even do that much.what u have done will come back round to u.u know that right?!

good luck, cus you'll need it