[JeanLynn81]

Well I have just been a nervous wreck here lately.

My mother is getting considerably worse. Its to the point now where she needs constant care and help with everything. She is very sick and weak. She gets dizzy and falls alot. The other night, she got stubborn and tried to make it up the steps to her room, and fell...THANKFULLY not down the steps...but back onto the landing, and got a pretty nasty bump on her head. So now one of us makes sure that we are keeping an eye on her. And she is sleeping in the livingroom again.

I can't sleep well because of it. I cannot take a sleep aide and so my doctor thinks I should take an anti depressant again.

To top it off, Alyssa is starting at a preschool August 14th where she goes for 4 half days a week. But before that happens, me and her therapists have ALOT of work to do with her. I don't know what I'm going to do about potty training. We haven't even started yet!!!!!!! Then there's all the paperwork and what-not. My head is spinning!

I need a vacation. And a babysitter! My last night out was a couple of months ago, and that was to see Little Feat in concert...which was fun, but I need more than just one night away. A week in Hawaii. Now accepting donations for the Send Jean to Hawaii charity.

[Samual]

Her therapist might be help on the toilet training, can you send Alyssa to special school for the early years until her understanding and language improves more?

A week in Hawaii hmm, I take it turning your living room in to a beach doesn't count as Hawaii.

[mollymae]

Josh has a expressive and receptive language delay and he was about 39 months when he was eventually fully reliably tolilet trained.

[mommy2067]

I am sorry to hear that your mom is worse Jean...that is really rough...and it is always hard for the caregiver..especially when you are so close and it is 24/7 basically...I hope that you can get some relief and maybe have a small getaway somewhere...Is there somebody who you trust and would be able to stay with your mom and Alyssa?

Good luck with the potty training...I hope once you start it all come together for Alyssa. Has she shown any interest? You still have a lot of time before she starts school..I know that it feels like a huge mountain to climb with everything that has to be done beforehand but just take one step at a time...you can get through it...don't be afraid to ask for help....we are all here for you too!!!!

5, 10, 15, 20...oh hey...I was just counting my nickels and dimes to see what I could come up with!!!

[angelic_ky]

[DivasMomma]

I am so sorry!!! Send Alyssa to my house for a week...you will get some rest and I promise to send her home potty trained!!!! Im apparently pretty good at, Kaydee even seems interested lately, which is earlier then what Jae was!

I hope things get better for you soon....do the meds work for you?? I would consider them if they help...I hope you get yourself feeling better soon

[mcmama]

Jean, I have always had reservations about preschool being appropriate when toilet training is an issue of pressure. But preschools are often not licensed for diaper changing. Still, I always have wished that more were flexible at this age about wearing a pull up and just dealing with it as an accident since it is really only a few hours.

I'm really sorry for what you are going through with your mom - I went through it with mine 30 years ago and narrowly escaped the same fate myself (so far). But I didn't have a young child to care for at the time. It's not an easy thing to watch, an it is not an easy thing to deal with the increasingly impossible milestones a cancer patient sets for herself - or the disappointment that comes when you cannot walk up the stairs anymore, you cannot go the the bathroom unassisted, you cannot go out for a spin to a local restaurant, etc.

Don't think Hawaii is on the horizon right now, sure hope you can get a babysitter. You need it.

[QueenAngie]

(((Hugs)))

Even if you went to Hawaii right now, you'd be worried sick over your Mom & DD!

As a Mom, I too, know how stressed it can be caring
for both the older generation and the younger generation at the same time....though mine were not preschool age.

Would your mother qualify for a homemaker through Dept of Aging or DORS? What about a volunteer sitter from church to give you an hour or two away?

Would your mother qualify for a hospital bed? What about Home Health services paid by insurance?

Wishing I could wave a magic wand and make it all better for you!

Keeping you and your Mom in our prayers!
(((Hugs)))