[lee62]

I miscarried at 6 weeks on Valentines day 2008. Doctor said we could start trying right away, but still unsuccessful.
It is hard to fall asleep at night and wake up in the morning. How am I supposed to go on ? Why did this happen to me?
I want to desperately to have a baby and be a mother. I hate how ignorant people are, after they find out that I miscarried. The most common phrase I hear is "It is so common" Actually I feel like its not, Only 20% of all pregnancies result in M/C that means 80% result in no m/c.
The worst thing so far, is having my own friends & family hide their pregnancies from me, b/c they think that I will get upset. I am unsure what is more upsetting, the fact that I lost a baby, or that my own friends & family hide their pregnancies from me.
I could really use some support from other people who experienced this kind of loss. thanks for being here.

[lollie20]

Welcome to families and I am so so sorry to hear of the loss of your little one. Woman who have passed those remarks to you have obviously never been through what you are going through.

I myself understand as I m/c at 9 wks and then lost twin boys at 16wks and it is an awful horrible thing for any person to have to go through especially the woman as we are more connected to the baby from the moment we find out we are pregnant. And no its not fair that they hide their pregnancies from you but woman who have never been through a loss dont know how to react around woman who have.
My doctor told me its 1 in four pregnacies that end in m/c it can be for many many reasons including Chromosomes, not developing properly, hormone levels etc... its nothing you did or didnt do its natures way of saying that the baby would not have formed properly.
It took me 8 months after I lost my twins to conceive again where it had taken me 3 years to conceive the twins and the lesson I learned is that the more harder you focus on ttc the less it may happen, so I stopped trying and had fun BD and it just happened.
It takes time to heal from your loss but time is a great healer and I wish you all the best on your ttc journey. All the ladies here understand how you are feeling and are a fountain of knowledge and comfort.

[DK615617]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss.

[2girls]

I am so sorry for your loss. I too have been in your shoes.
We suffered a loss last August at 10 weeks 6 days along. We were also told that we could TTC right away, but we weren't successful until March of this year.
I honestly believe that God wanted to give me that time to grieve, He only knows just how much I truly needed it.
Give yourself the time you need and enjoy this time with your DH. It will happen again.
Good luck with everything and many ((((((HUGS)))))) to you cuz I know you could use them.

[Kats Playland]

I'm sorry to hear for your loss. But I know how you feel... I went threw the same situation with some of my friends and family. I was just shy of 12wks. They felt/thought I would be better for me not to know or find out later they were expecting and what not. It actually hurt worse, and the more this happened the more focused I became on getting pg. Luckily I have support from a few friends and family who had gone threw what I had to talk to and relize that I just need to grive and calm down. DH and I were actually on a mini break *not trying, not preventing* when low and behold we got our BFP. So just step back, relax, and grieve. You'll get your bfp soon.


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[KR258]

I am so sorry for your loss. The people who say and do those things just don't know how to react and most are just trying to protect you. They think it will make it hurt less and have no idea that there isn't a way to make it hurt less. It will just take time...you will have moments of happiness and slowly those moment will get longer and longer but the pain never really goes away all the way. I don't think it should....you lost your precious baby and you have a right to greive for that loss. Your little one will never be replaced and you will never forget but it will slowly get easier. Do what makes you feel at peace about it. Some find they need to do something for the baby like plant a tree or write or paint. I pray God gives you some peace. Stress makes it hard to conceive so try to just relax and feel your feelings. It's alot to handle but we're stronger than we know. I lost my son at 21 weeks almost 14 months ago. Some days it hurts like the day it happend and some days I can actually smile knowing he is in Heaven. It still hurts alot but its getting easier. 's & prayers for you and your family.

[angelstarsmum]

My thoughts and prayers go out to you {{{hugs}}} my doc told me that in fact it happens to 1-5 women! not what i wanted to hear either hun, i lost triplets at 19wks not through m/c my water went on triplet 1 Annabell and she sadly died 1 wk later and i had to deliver Callum and Elizabeth due to me having an infection, this is still sooooo hard to deal with at times but at time i do smile knowing we will one day meet again, i also m/c at 10wks too and was given no reason why????? but through all of this sadness im now a proud mother of a my little princess Cerrys Emillee 16wks old so don't give up hope hun,x

[landj111]

I'm so sorry for your loss, I know how your feeling they say 1 in 4 pregnancies end in m/c then why the heck is everyone around me pregnant. It is very frustrating. The pain does lessen in time.

[emilye]

Hang in there hun. I too recently lost a baby at 11 weeks. I understand how annoying it can be for people to start quoting statistics to you. The last thing I wanted was to be part of a statistic.
Hang in there. It could take some time for your body to return to normal.
You are in my thoughts.
Em

[Sgrossmann]

It sounds repetitive but I also lost at 8 weeks. I took a digital and didn't even know I was pregnant. I have Poly Cyctic Ovarian Syndrom (PCOS). I got it after having my boys back to back. I couldn't understand why after two easy (as they could be) pregnancies I couldn't get pregnant again. The big question was of course why? Then I find out after it's already gone. I felt like I didn't even have time to embrace it or love it. I decided then that I wanted to start the drugs I had put off for 3 years. My doctor told me to wait and see what happens. Then I got pregnant again 2 weeks later. Thank God. Stay strong. They say it's so common in the first 3 months that most woman don't even know they are pregnant when it happens. Just know you not alone. If you need to talk leave me a message. My sister also lost one. Now she too is pregnant expecting her first in March.