[alwaysmarch31]

I recently miscarried my first pregnancy and I can't seem to get over it at all. It seems like everyone expects me to be over it and they certainly are. I find myself angry that I seem to be the only one mourning the baby. I can't smile, laugh, or enjoy life but everyone else can. Everyone else can and is going out and enjoying themselves.

[vanaden]

I understand completely. I miscarried my second child and it was devastating to my life, my mind and my marriage. It effected everything. It seemed noone knew my pain. Life went on for everyone and they stopped asking how I felt after a few days...I felt selfish but at the same time, did anyone care?
People care, they just don't know what to say to you. Just let people know you need them, you can't expect them to read minds.
I am a miscarriage survivor, and so are a lot of these women. You'll find a lot of love and support here!
Good luck and (((hugs))) to you.

[KR258]

I am very sorry for your loss. It is very hard. Take as much time as you need to greive for your little one. I lost my boy at 21 weeks a year and 3 months ago. It took a lot of time and a ton of tears but it did get easier. The pain always comes back and it feels like the day it happened but eventually smiles come back too. If you need to talk you can pm me

[QueenAngie]

Welcome to the board!

Having gone through a miscarriage myself, I feel your pain.
I laid on the sofa and cried for 3 days.

While my body was healing and in good shape, my emotions were not.
My nurse manager called me on the telephone and told me that
I was needed at work. My patients needed me and I needed
to help them.
That is what got me into the shower and back to work.
She was a very smart lady....else, I'd still be laying on the sofa.

(((Hugs)))

Grieving takes time....not just overnight.
Perhaps a memorial would be a good memory of your little lost angel.
Rose bush, tree, angel stone, or even a donation to your fav charity in baby's honor.

Have you started a journal to write down your feelings? Write in it every day.

Meditate or pray every day.

Eat healthy and take a daily vitamin.

Walk or exercise every day. Will somebody in your family do it with you?

It will just take you some time, my dear.

[landj111]

I'm so very sorry for your loss!! I understand completly how you are feeling when I had my first m/c I felt the same way like I was the only one grieving the loss of my baby. Queen Angie is right healing takes time. There is this wonderful site for online memorials for miscarriages and still births that I found it really helped me alot. I will PM you the site.

[mlcassid]

I understand how you feel. I've just gone through my 4th loss and it doesn't seem to get easier. It's almost as if it's "old news" because it's the 4th time and barely anyone said anything about it. I've gone through some heavy periods of depression and loneliness since my first loss. It is truly very hard. It HAS gotten slightly easier as time goes by...to smile and to feel things again. The biggest piece of advice I have for you is to seek the help of a grief counselor. My husband, nor my friends, nor my family are trained to help me through this kind of grief. There's nothing they know to say that will make me feel better. The key is to not expect too much from others in terms of healing. Believe me, no matter what they say or how much they show concern it ultimately doesn't change how you feel. It has to come from within yourself. And that takes time. There is a bright and shining light at the end of this tunnel. While you take the time to grieve, remember not to allow yourself to dwell in the darkness for too long. It will make it all the harder to move forward and find the happiness you should surround yourself with. Your baby would want you to enjoy your life and find joy (at least that's what I always tell myself). You are not alone, we are all here and in this together. Be sure to communicate to your friends and family how you are feeling, but like I'd said, know that they aren't trained to know how to help you through a major event like this (even though I'm sure they would love to help however they can. They can only lend a listening ear or a hug. By not expecting more from them it might help ease your anger or any bitterness that might arise. I will be thinking of you.

[Tracey with 6]

we are all here for ou, remember you are greiving a child and should take the time to greive and heal properly, feel free to post a memorial story here, there are plenty of ladies here who will communicate with you. (((HUGS)))

[stephanienminnesota]

Hi. I just wanted to pop in and tell ya you are not alone I miscarried my 2nd and 4th pregnancies and let me tell you, It took alot of time to heal from both. My 2nd was truly devastating b/c they actually told me what was wrong with the baby and why it died and them telling me that just about killed me. If you ever need someone to talk to or anything pm me and we can talk.

[punkepooh]

I too lost my first baby, going through a miscarriage is a very devestating event. I know I spent days crying and couldn't figure out how everyone else including DH seemed to just accept what had happend and was moving on. I don't think people know what to say and if they have not experienced such a loss they can't relate to your feelings. Like the other posts have said it will get better in time but that time is different for every person. Even though you may be physically healed it may take longer to heal emotionally. If you want to chat feel free to PM me.

[alwaysmarch31]

Thank you all so much for sharing whats happened to you. I have contemplated going up to two woman at work I know who have lost their baby and keep stopping myself. I don't know I just don't know them well enough and I am afraid of breaking down at work. So it makes me feel a little better to know that what I am feeling is normal. I think I am going to lose it if one more person tells me don't worry I can try again though or tell me its probably for the best because the baby might have had lots of problems. I just want to be like well it wouldn't be this baby and I don't care if my child would have problems I would love them anyways. Why don't they get that?