[KR258]

but everyone (meaning my parents, in-laws, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, and even grandparents) think I am crazy and tell me not to let that happen...I am tired of all the negative opinions that I never asked for. So now I am asking....from people who have no agenda...is it wrong to get pregnant and bring a baby into my life when I can't really afford much at all. I am hoping the money situation improves but that usually takes time and I am not gonna say it will be better when I need it to. I have insurance that will cover the hospital and doctors 100%. I know there are other things to worry about but I just want to have a baby. I love my babies so much. how could it be wrong?

[Alejandros Mommy]

What does your s/o say?

[QueenAngie]

If every couple waited until the perfect moment (house, cars, vacations, best of health) to have babies, they'd wait until their 50's or 60's.....or never have any at all.

I think your baby is 14 months old now and you are feeling those Mommy twinges missing a newborn. How far apart do you want your children? You are a SAHM, so daycare is not an issue.

Talk to your DH and see if it works for the 3 of you.

[twinzplus3]

I agree with Angie. There is never a good time to have a baby. It certainly wasn't convenient to have twins. And yet what a blessing!!!!

I think all good relationships have boundaries. My MIL actually cried when she found out we were having twins because before I gave birth, we were not considering stopping having children. She sobbed and repeatedly called us to ask what about this, or what about that. It was my dh who calmly but politely said that it was our marraige, our kids, our house. Support and advice is welcome when sought after. If your s/o wants more children, then there's not reason not to. I find that now that I have 5 and my grocery bill is approaching astronomical, we find ways to save in other areas. We're not going on vacations as often, but our kids are loved, fed, clothed, and well educated. End of story.

[poliscmjr]

I couldn't agree more then with what the other lovely ladies have said. This dicussion should be between you and your dh. It's not that others have opinions but they should be kept to themselves.

[DK615617]

I am surprised that they aren't more understanding after all that you have been through!!
Is your dh in agreement with you? If the 2 of you want another child you should have one. There is never a perfect time. And one way or another everything will work itself out financially. I would ignore them, as I am shocked that they would feel this way after what you have been through. I am sure they are juat looking out for your financial well being, but few people are ever ready financially for a baby.

[MiaCamille]

I agree with all of the above, you find a way to manage, kids are such a blessings, dh and i always say that we are rich cause we have 3 kids so we have 3 million!!

[quagmire8]

i agree, it will never be the best time and this decision is one that should be made by you and DP. Goodluck!!

[MommaColleen]

I agree that there is no "perfect" time. IMO, you should do what you and your DH feel is right. If I would have listened to my MIL, I would never have married DH and had 3 beautiful children. Yes, it was rough at times and still is, but like Val said my kids are fed, clothed and loved. They may whine at how "deprived" they are but one day they will realize just how good they have it.

Good luck with your decision.

[Kats Playland]

I agree with everyone. There's no right time or wrong time to have a baby. Just sit down with the dh and talk to him about it, then go from there.
I'm kinda in the opposite boat than you. My InLaw's want me to have another baby, but only one. My parents were pushing for another GC when DD hit 18mo. and would love for us to have up to 4. *lol* Good luck hun and I hope it all works out in the end.