[KR258]

He said I have to wait till I am pregnant again to actually be able to tell for sure what's going wrong. He said either I have an incompetent cervix or I am getting infections that cause preterm labor. With Katelyn I was on bed rest because my pulse kept racing from stress so they had me just stay in bed and relax (maybe that's how she stayed in so long?) But with Keanu it seems like it was a combo of both things..(bout to give you tmi)..the water sac came out of me before breaking but I bled so much that they think the placenta tore away from the wall, they don't know which happend first...but that's why they induced labor so I wouldn't bleed to death and I couldn't have kept him in me for any longer. I was in a car accident when I was pregnant with him, totalled my car, but the nurse said he seemed to be ok on the u/s. Then I had a super bad infection but the doc said it would be ok if I took meds. I seemed to get better, thought everything was fine....then I lost him. Caught me way off gaurd.

I was feeling guilty because I let them induce labor but now that I know for sure that they HAD to induce or I was going to die...now I don't feel so guilty. I still wish they had done more for him but I can't change the past. I am trying to understand so I can change the future. I pray that all of you who want a baby so bad, do have a happy, healthy baby. I know how it hurts to see everyone else giving birth and feeling so strange like "I am supposed to be having a baby, where is my baby I am a mother who is missing her child" It almost feels like he was kidnapped except I know I won't see him till I die.

[landj111]

I'm so sorry about everything that has happened but, it doesn't seem right what your doc is saying. I would get a second opinion.

[twinzplus3]

That makes perfect sense to me. I'm glad you were able to get a somewhat helpful answer. I always found it frustrating that the only way to get answers was to get pg and miscarry. But now that I have a few years of distance since my last m/c I've realized that unfortunately trial and error are often how these things go. Now that they suspect an incompetent cervix as being one possible factor (which based on your description makes complete sense) they can monitor you and place a cerclage which will increase your chances of carrying to term substantially.

[angelstarsmum]

Originally Posted by twinzplus3

That makes perfect sense to me. I'm glad you were able to get a somewhat helpful answer. I always found it frustrating that the only way to get answers was to get pg and miscarry. But now that I have a few years of distance since my last m/c I've realized that unfortunately trial and error are often how these things go. Now that they suspect an incompetent cervix as being one possible factor (which based on your description makes complete sense) they can monitor you and place a cerclage which will increase your chances of carrying to term substantially.

Ditto!!((((HUGS)))), I had a similar experience and i am pregnant for the 3rd time, I have a scan booked for when im 12wks and i will have a scan EVERY WEEK to check my cervix cos i too MIGHT have an imcompetent cervix, hang i there in time you will look to the future.xxx

[MiaCamille]

so sorry wishing you all the best

[natski13]

good luck!KR258 --it seems like your handleing things better with your new doctor. It's so wonderful you got a new one, who's giving some answers that you're comfortable with. That's so important! with the incompetent cervix, like the others said, it can be fixed with the cerclage! i'm so happy for you, and you can move on with your new doctor by your side!!!

[poliscmjr]

I'm glad you received some answers.

[KR258]

Thank you for all you're support and understanding. We also decided that I will get my last shot of birth control in Jan (so I just have to hang in till then) I can't wait to quit taking birth control but we gotta at least wait that long (due to money issues)

[lissaaimi]

Thinking of you

[shellyhudson]

I hope that you were able to find some peace with what the new doctor said. As many pp have said, a cerclage can be so helpful with an incompetent cervix. One of my dear friends lost two babies because of that before diagnosis but went on to have two healthy beautiful babies later. I wish you the best of luck after January.

Shelly