[QueenAngie]

We have people of all ages on this site.

Would you please share what the ideal age for sex would be?

Would it be teens?

Would it be college age?

Would it be in the 20's?

Would it be in the 30's?

Would it be in the 40's?

Would it be in the 50's?

Would it be in the 60's?

Would it be - not at all?

Please share your thoughts and reasons.......Keeping in mind, the debate rules.

What do you think?

[vanaden]

I think 19.
By then you can piece together actions and consequences pretty well and you have an idea about living in the real world.

[DivasMomma]

I agree...i think 19-20 is when you are finally somewhere mature enough to make rational decisions...i was 16, way to young even though then I didnt feel that young...looking back and listening to 16 year olds today it makes me shudder... i was still a kid.

[oweirdo]

Wow, umm to put an age on it. It really depends on each person, my 20 yo BIL is just now getting life. But by 20 we had a 18 month old, married almost 2 yrs had real jobs, jobs with good pay and a future. but I think 20 is an age that you tend to get it, mom and dad are not always there telling you yes and no, saving your rear if your in trouble.
I would rather my kids not have sex by an certian age, and just wait until they are married. I think it would save a lot of problems.

[erinellakal]

This is a hard question...i was way too young....but i wouldn't change it either if i could. I would never want my girls to do it before they were 18...but i am a realist. My plan is to keep talking to them about sex and even just kissing tell them that i want them to wait until they are ready....they will know that they don't have to do anything they don't want to do.
My parents were afraid to talk to me about sex and i think thats why i did it when i did....i wanted to know what it was all about and no one was telling me so i had to figure it out myself. Actually now that i think about it no one ever said don't do it until you're married...and i am catholic....seems like they should have said something to us in catachism....hhhhmmmmmmmm

[mommartin]

For me I waited until I was married and I want to teach my children that also. I don't think it is an age thing as much as I feel you should be married first. JMHO

[DivasMomma]

reading others responses made me realize that I too had my first DD at 20 haha...I guess it should be when you REALLY meet that someone special...not when you "think" you are soooo in love with your hs bf haha

[punkepooh]

I know I was 19, and honestly I'm not sure that I was old enough. I grew up in a home where it was taught to wait until marriage, and that was all that was said about the subject, I was also opted out of sex ed in school. I wanted to see what the big deal was, but honestly just ended up getting my heartbroken. It took me until my mid-twenties to realize that men can seperate sex and love and many women can not. So in a perfect world we would all wait at least until we met the right person, but at 16, 17 or even 21 I know every relationship at least for myself was always the perfect one. Looking back I do wish I had focused more on school and establishing a life before I really bothered with dating and sex but I did Know it all when I was 19 afterall!! It really boils down to a personal choice. When I have children I will encourge them to wait until marriage, but I know in reality that just isn't what our world today promotes. I work in middle school and see it everyday it is even happening at 13, we even had a 13 year old have a baby last year. So kids today are just bombarded with sex. So while I hope my children will wait I want them to be educated about why they should wait and the concequences that may follow their actions.

[angelic_ky]

i think it really depends on the individual, although in your teens is most likely too young, in your 20's is probably a reasonable age but some probably aren't ready til their 30's. However wait until you are mature enough to handle all the consequence, including if the relationship doesn't work, and wait for that special someone that respects you for you and not just for your body

[jkl123]

I agree that it is hard to put an age on it. One important thing to remember that along with sex comes the possibllity of an unplanned pregnancy and that you should be mature enough to handle that. No BC method is 100% fool-proof, so unless a person can handle that situation, they're not ready.