[Nitwit]

I can't remember the last time I was this angry!!! My ex-husband got the woman he cheated on me with pregnant and now he's doing for her everything he didn't do for our son. That's not fair to me or my son. I know I probably sound selfish and petty but for those of you who know or knew my situation you know what I'm talking about about fairness. He hardly ever sees Cooper now and he's trying to do the right thing I get that but I was his wife and I got freakin beat up, literally, while I was pregnant. I got ignored and verbally/physically abused for even being pregnant. He never once went to a single doctor's appointment with me. Everytime I was in the hospital for something going wrong with my pregnancy he'd roll his eyes and act like he didn't even want to be there. He even accused me of faking preterm labor for 5 FREAKING )*^(*&^(&%*&%*(&*%( weeks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is not fair!!!! I'm so angry right now and I want to cry and I want to hurt him!!!! He doesn't get it... do you guys?

[DivasMomma]

((HUGS))

I am so sorry. your right, its no fair. But thank goodness YOU and COOP are out of that situation now. Try to focus on how great things are going to be for your son growing up WITHOUT an abusive man in the picture. You should think of it that way and count your blessings

[1stTimeMomOf2]

Yes, I understand why you'd be upset. It sounds like he's treating her the way he should've treated you while you were pregnant and with him. I'd just completely cut him out of your life and act like he never existed. Sounds like he's just a jerk and you don't need to be wasting your time worrying about him. Hugs girl!

[MiaCamille]

i agree you're out so you're the lucky one in all of this...

[mommy2067]

Oh Whit...I can understand you being upset but think about it... this just confirms even more what a son of a b&*^# he really is!!!...You and Coop are much, much better of without him...for your all round well being...I know it hurts and makes you mad but you are in a better space right now don't let him take that from you...We are here for you...Hang in there...(((HUGS))))

[DK615617]

I don't blame you for being upset. But be glad you are rid of him, she will see his true colors eventually, they always show through. Don't even worry about it. You are lucky you got out.

[2girls]

I agree, give it time and she too will see what he is really like.
You know that this 'show' he is putting on isn't really him.
She will figure that out soon enough, in the mean time....sit back and laugh to yourself cuz you are done with him and safe now and cuz you know what's in store for her.

[Rissa812]

How do you know for sure he is doing everything for her?? I went through abuse(not physical while I was pg with DD) Its probably just a show...Do you really want him in your life anyway? I moved on and found a great husband. Sit back, watch, and laugh. I know its not fair. DD's father pays childsupport. She has a great dad (my DH) and every thing she needs at home with me without him. It will get better. I promise!!

[lesliedw]

I'm so sorry for the hardship you have suffered. However, I would take this opportunity to cut him out completely and raise your son as you want. I've been married for almost eleven years to a wonderful man, but sometimes I wish I could be single to raise our kids the way I want. I hate negotiating and arguing on punishments and permissions which seriously undermine my authority. You have an opportunity to be independent and free to live as you wish for yourself and son. So let the ex go, and pity the girl who will eventually see his dark side.

[Nitwit]

I am more upset that he can't divide his time between his DD and our son. How is he supposed to divide it three ways? It's not fair to Cooper. I don't want him in my life, just in Cooper's. I don't want Cooper to come to me years from now and say you didn't try. He's all ready going to come to me and say daddy doesn't love me like he loves my sister... it's just really hard....