[QueenAngie]

So sorry to hear this.

It must be very upsetting to you that your son is getting the short end of the deal from his father.

Ex-DH is not a role model for your son!

Keep a little diary of everytime he was supposed to see Cooper and did not. That way your son, Cooper, will know that it was not you withholding parental contact, when he is old enough.

Sweetie, he did not ever take good care of you and he is showing your son that same amount of care and concern. Zero. That is not a role model you want for your son.....to grow up and continue this immature and uncaring male behavior.


Your prince will come and love both you and your son.
He will be the Daddy to your son and the role model.

Wishing you all the best!

[lesliedw]

I understand. My oldest is my stepson and his mother has nothing to do with him. Nothing. She has had four other kids after him; only two live with her. We have decided to be honest with him.

"It's not you, it's her. She's like a child herself and doesn't know how to grow up. She loves you as much as she is able right now. She's not a good person at this point, but later she may change and want a relationship with you. Until that time we are protecting you so that she doesn't hurt you."

Be honest, but keep it simple. It's not your son, but him. I'm not saying to turn your son against his father, but teach him that not everyone does what is right and good. The more you hedge and remain angry, the more confused and upset your son will be. Tell him the truth, even the part of you not knowing why his dad is acting the way he is, and you are hurt and confused too. If he feels that he isn't the only one, then maybe he will feel less that dad doesn't love him, and that you two have each other. And then teach him to move on and not let his dad ruin his day. You can't avoid the hurt and anger, but you can prepare him to handle his dad's attitude with grace and acceptance.