[mcmama]

Well, here it is. My son and his fiance set the date about a month ago. They moved it back from December to June 29.

Yikes.

The reason was because my younger son reports for the US Coast Guard Academy on June 30. So this is the last time we know he can make it, we know he'll be on land, etc.

We just finished the invitation list.

Yikes.

My job is the invitations. I am ordering them tomorrow. Now for addressing questions.....

Married couples are easy. Then there are unmarried couples. Then there are people coming with "guests" But not everyone. Just the young people. Then there's and children. And family. But not this one's entire family. And yes, that one's entire family.

Suggestions for how you handle the proper form of address on the invitation for unique situations?

[twinzplus3]

Congratulations! I hated addressing invitations! So no advice--just congratulations.

[wanttobemommy]

congrats on getting a daughter in law. As far as invites go send them with the names of those you want to come. Not an extras for the ones you dont mind bring guests add the whole plus one and make sure they RSVP but besides that i have no advice about 10 people showed up to my wedding UNinvited

[mommy2067]

First and foremost CONGRATULATIONS to you and of course your son...You have a future daughter in law!!! Anyway re: unique situs...I guess you have to treat them uniquely...I remember having a few when we did our invites..For those who aren't married address it using "both of their names"...For those who are single and have the option of bringing a guest address to the "person and guest"; and for those who are "allowed" to bring kids addressed to the "couple and family"....HTH...Have fun...have a damp sponge near by for all those stamps or better yet buy the peel and stick!!!! Did you include a map for any out of town guests?

[QueenAngie]

Congrats!

This link may be helpful in your ettiquette questions on the invitations.



Outer Envelope
Mr. and Mrs. Robert Martin
3790 Happy Lane
Davistown, Iowa 95616

Inner Envelope
Mr. and Mrs. Martin
*(Joshua, Aaron, and Cole if children are invited)

*This is the best method to inform your guest that their children are invited.

Children are listed by age, older to younger.

Children over the age of 18 should be sent their own invitation.

Children are not mentioned on outer envelope.

A couple who live together, but have different last names:

Outer Envelope
Mr. James Martin
Ms. Sheryl Stone

Inner Envelope
Mr. Martin and Ms. Stone

This example shows the unmarried man first and the unmarried lady 2nd. I always thought the unmarried lady came first for all invitations. QA

How exciting for you and your family!

[Magic_Mikki]

QueenAngie really nailed it. For my wedding, I remember coming across the problem where I didn't know who the guest of the person invited would be... Or I did know who the person's guest was, but not the last name, etc. This is how I just addressed the envelope to that person, and added "And Guest".

Mr. Travis Smith and Guest
123 Here St.
Blah, MN 55555

We allowed for everyone to bring a guest so they had that option if they felt they might not know many people at the wedding. For example, many of my mom's aunts were widows, and a few of them brought other family members as their guest so they would have someone to be with.

Also, QueenAngie mentioned how to address to a family (if children are invited) on the inside of the invite, but for the envelope, we did it differently:

Mr. and Mrs. Robert Martin and Family
3790 Happy Lane
Davistown, Iowa 95616

This is how we did it if the whole family was invited. We just didn't want anyone to be confused as to who was invited! But there are some great websites out there that give a lot of information on this topic!

[mcmama]

Thanks. I have to clarify a lot of these. A map for out of town guests is a great idea - although they all are pretty much in the NY/CT border area.

There are some with children - there are some whose "and family" would include "children" older than the bride and groom. So we may have a few who just assume they were invited. Oh well.

For guest favors, they are having a CD made of their favorite love songs and giving it to all guests to share their love.

[mommy2067]

Originally Posted by mcmama

Thanks. I have to clarify a lot of these. A map for out of town guests is a great idea - although they all are pretty much in the NY/CT border area.

There are some with children - there are some whose "and family" would include "children" older than the bride and groom. So we may have a few who just assume they were invited. Oh well.

For guest favors, they are having a CD made of their favorite love songs and giving it to all guests to share their love.

Perhaps, in the case where the "kids" are older than the bride and groom and especially if they aren't living at home anymore they could be sent their own invitations...

Love the CD idea that will make a nice keepsake for everyone...We did up special heart shape chocolates and we also had bookmarks printed up with a very nice thank you verse and then laminated (if you like I can send it to you-maybe could be used inside the CD)...For the kids that attended we had special goodie bags for them all and I also had a table in a corner set up with wedding wordsearches; colouring pages; X word puzzles etc...

[MiaCamille]

Hey congrats to you and them!! good luck with everything....

[mcmama]

The point is adult "kids" are not being sent their own invitations. But will probably come anyway. Oh well.