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Hi Missingmyangel06,
I am dating a white woman as well. Honestly, I think you are over analyzing. Don't worry about it and just take his word because alot of people in general keep to themselves and take a while to open up. What I used to do is alot of the date nights I had with my girlfriend, I would invite my mom. I would let my g/f answer the phone and she would ask my mom how she is doing, make small talk find, things they have in common..in your case, her son...compliment him to her and show you care about him...eventually she will get comfortable. I know it is important for some women, if not most to form a bond with their partner's mother and that is a great thing. The fact that this is a concern of yours makes me believe you love your boyfriend and his family and they will appreciate you for that. Just always be nice and respectful to her and her son...it is highly likely she wants her son to be with a good woman...regardless of what race she is.
Your situation is not a black and white thing. Yes, there are black women who do not like the fact the some black guys prefer to date white women. For those that do, if they want to exhaust energy over that nonsense, let them. You will have to understand some of the differences of the culture and understand that his mom was raised in a different era where bonding racially was critically important (hence why she went to the job fair) and things have changed. As weird as it sounds, sometimes some people use comments regarding race to either bond or test your sense of humor..not as a comment to insult. I don't have a good explanation why, it is what it is. I can go on and on for days and it is interesting to hear your concerns as my g/f could probably relate when we first started dating. Just keep doing what you are doing. You two will be fine and I am sure he has your back...