[honestman]

Hi all,
I am new to this board and I am glad it does exist. Now I know I am not alone.
I am married with 2 children ages 4 and 1.5
Our sex life was great before we had kids but now, it hardly exists. I love my wife dearly but there is no time for intimate relations.
I find that we are always being interupted and my mife seems to think that the best time is around 12am or so.
I work from 9 am til 8 pm 6 days a week and when 12am rolls around I am DEAD TIRED.
Is this a normal problem and how do people solve it.

Thank you
Jeff

[mcmama]

You are going to have to make the time, somehow.

Weekend, super early in the morning, night out....

My dad was an airline pilot and was gone for days at a time. Since life was so irregular, they made time for talk. We kids knew that we had to go outside and play or do something and not interrupt mom and dad having time together - not for sex, just enjoying one another. Mom would get dinner in the oven, Dad would turn on the music and mix the cocktails or whatever, and they would just sit and enjoy each other, feet up, relaxing for about a half hour- and we kids were supposed to respect that. We were school age at the time. Since your children are little, you may find that this won't work just now. But keep the spark alive, and be flexible.

[mrmnmom82]

I would say date nights, your older one can probably go to a sleepover at grandmas, or a friends house, and the little one takes naps.

Don't forget about quickies. Sorry if I'm being inapropriate, but I have kids the same age and a husband that works third shift. I know what it's like to have to make the time.

Maybe every friday night, if you don't have to be up to go to work on sat., you can stay up late on fri. It's worth making time for. It's worth not just feeling like room mates, but a couple.