[abc123lollipops2dayaj]

she will warm to the idea. especially being a girl. well u would think anyway. involve her in all the shopping etc and talk about it lots. she will get used to it. another child would be great i reckon. good luck!
i would kill for my mum to have another baby! i have an older sister and younger brother

[jadis]

Heck yeah she's going to say she doesn't want a sibling- she has had your complete attention for 11 years, and was likely the centre of your life! That, and she is probably starting to go through puberty, which further reinforces the idea that she is in fact the centre of the universe (what teen/preteen doesn't think this?)

I also agree that she'll probably be a giant pain in the rear about it....until the baby is here. Then she'll want to be the only one that holds her and show him/her off to all her friends.

[Tracey with 6]

it is your decison as you are the parent, also she will love it when it gets here, but maybe I'm not one to comment although my older ones are fighting over who gets to hold the baby first

[wanna be a young mother]

Yeah I agree with everyone...it should be up to you and not her. I was 9yrs when my mom had my sister and I didn't want her to have another baby. Then my sister came and I fell in love with her....then 13 months later my other sister came and I love her too! Then my brother came when I was 15yrs and I was mad but I love him now too! Then the worse was my mom being 8 months pregnant at my wedding!! I was so mad at her for having another child but then my wrinkled little sister was put in my arms and 3yrs later I lover her to death! So I guess us kids get over it once the baby is here!

[oweirdo]

A baby not only changes the mom, but it changes all the siblings as well. I think you should go ahead before your even preggy, take her out look at clothes, cribs, maybe not even buy anything. But look coo and go gaga over things, tell her I remember when you..... Let her warm up to the ideal, after a few trips out, see if there is an outfit she would like to get, maybe a cute teddy bear. Try and find her a shirt that say I am a big sister, Get her so involved that she will be a little mom. She will love the baby, it might be hard at first, but she will love it!!
Katlyn will be almost 10 when I have this one, she loves the ideal, of course there are a few in between and she loves them all. She loves to help shop, and want to pick out clothes all the time.

[mommartin]

I agree with the pps. It is your decision. Good luck.

[sharinielsen]

In about 7-8 years she will be off to college and on w/ the rest of her life, leaving an empty nest behind. You will have a little 6-7 year old at that time to love and enjoy. Don't let her feelings discourage you from having another little one and enjoying those years to the fullest!

Keep her involved in the process and make her feel like she has a major role in the care and nurture of this little one and you will probably find that she will fall in love w/ the next one just as much as you will!

[songbirdxx]

I have a brother who is 9 years younger than me and I was like a little mother to him. Now we are both older, he looks out for me.The gap closes when siblings are over 21.

[MissyChrissy]

One of my daughters wasn't fond of the idea of having a baby brother/sister either...till he came along. Now, she's so close to him, sometimes I wonder if he'll be confused over who his mother is!

My girls were 7, 12, and 13 when Conner was born, and they all adore him today. He's a perfect addition to our family.

[PastryGirl08]

I agree that is is only you and your husbands decision, but think of this, she has 9 months to warm up to the idea, and I currently only have 1 but we are trying to decide as well if we should have another, the thing I think about, and can be a good argument is to tell your daughter, she would never have a chance to be an auntie a sister or any kind of extended family, and that could really be missing out (not to say this is a negative if you choose to have an only child) And as far as her being against it, think about how much we fear change as adults, and she is just a child, you are asking her show how do you feel about us changing your whole world? It is scary even for us, but if she is involved as much as possible and is assured that while a baby will need some time and attention that doesn't mean she is being replaced.

Hope it all works out!