[thartman123]

Okay so im 24, divorced, 2 amazing kids, I dont have alot of money, and am currently deployed to Iraq. I'm not your average guy, theres nothing that gives me more joy than tucking my kids in at night and being there for every smile and every tear. I dont go to clubs, cheat, drink much at all, yell or scream, and im extremely laid back. I am the biggest family man you will probably ever meat. I never thought it would be this hard finding someone loves the same things, someone who loves nothing more than spending time with the family and not being affraid to show their feelings both emotionally or physically. It seems that everyone i find is to caught up in the clubs, never home, and could care more about hanging out with friends then spending time as a family. Dont get me wrong, I do have flaws, but there has to be someone out there thats right......

[Magic_Mikki]

There is a Miss Right, but I'm already married! Sorry!

Just kidding.

You are currently deployed to Iraq so does that mean your two kids are back at home with their mom? I have a friend who is in a similar situation. He's never been married and doesn't have kids, though. But he is so concerned that he won't be able to find someone to settle down with. Just be patient and keep in mind that you won't be deployed forever. When you come back you will have plenty of time to find someone who shares the same interests as you. It will be a lot easier when you're back.

It's funn that you say that all the women you know care more about going out to clubs and drinking more than family because I hear all my female friends say the same thing about men! LoL!

[Samual]

I think there is a Mr/Miss right, but I don't believe it to be one person out there that you have to find. I know Frank is a Mr Right, not necessarily due to how I feel for him, of course I love him to bits, for me it is the fact that he can put up with my moods, he doesn't moan about my weird habits, he can cheer me up when I'm in a rubbish mood, he looks after me when I'm ill, things like that. He doesn't have to do anything for me, but he choses to do as much for me and us as he can, that really means a lot to me.

You should love and feel for each other always, whether you're having to watch them be sick, a bad case of bed head, morning breath what ever, Frank could be all three but it wouldn't put me off him at all.

You don't have to have the same love for things and interests, I hate heavy metal, tattoo's, gory films and chips, Frank however, couldn't live without them. He hates my taste in music, dress sense, not mentioning the comic book love. The only hobby type thing we both enjoy is Nintendo love. I like the difference actually, he is a city boy and I'm a country bumpkin, I like introducing him to things and when he takes me places or gets me to do something I wouldn't consider on my own. If you want to meet someone who is basically yourself in another body, I think that would be really boring.

[QueenAngie]

Thartman, welcome to the board!

Appreciate you being a hero and serving our country overseas! I can not even imagine the hardships that you and your fellow servicemen & women endure to keep our country free.

I am thinking there are lots of places to meet the right women.

Maybe you need to try
church meetings,
Parents without Partners,
the local PTA,
volunteering your time & talents to whatever interests you.

Wishing you all the best!

[sendacow]

Originally Posted by thartman123

Okay so im 24, divorced, 2 amazing kids, I dont have alot of money, and am currently deployed to Iraq. I'm not your average guy, theres nothing that gives me more joy than tucking my kids in at night and being there for every smile and every tear. I dont go to clubs, cheat, drink much at all, yell or scream, and im extremely laid back. I am the biggest family man you will probably ever meat. I never thought it would be this hard finding someone loves the same things, someone who loves nothing more than spending time with the family and not being affraid to show their feelings both emotionally or physically. It seems that everyone i find is to caught up in the clubs, never home, and could care more about hanging out with friends then spending time as a family. Dont get me wrong, I do have flaws, but there has to be someone out there thats right......

..I think you'll find that most 24 year old women know-a-days esp because women in general want a career are more involved with these aspects. If youre willing to find someone perhaps a couple of years older then yourself then i reckon there deff is a miss right for you. Also try to pant yourself a picture - imagine youve already met this person - you're sure to send the right kind of vibes.

[a16n02]

I too am a 24 year old, I am finishing off a university degree and working. My last two girlfriends were both church going girls, both lovely, compassionate and kind people. Unfrotunately, they both cheated on me - which doesn't inspire much spirit in a guy. Inspite of that, my ex-girlfriend and I decided to try again, it was very hard - she was living and working in another state, but we tried. She became sort-of career orientated but just plain enjoyed going out on the town with her friends and getting tipsy and dancing the night away.

I've been told that i'm mature for my age - so thartman123, I can relate to your needs of wanting to be with a girl who cherish the good and not so great things about u mutually (like what Samual suggested).