[curly58]

Question: I have been married for thirty years and I have a problem with my husband flirting with my friends, women,calling them BABE etc... One time at the end of a wedding reception I noticed that he was missing along with my friend of more than thirty-five years. I went looking for them for what seemed like 20-25 minutes and then they just seemed to appear walking down the hall (we were staying at a hotel). They were both drunk and he swears that he doesn't remember anything - of course we got into an argument -- but how can you argue with someone who claims they don't remember. This happened again last summer...we were at a party of one of my husband's co-worker's and my husband disappeared with his co-worker's wife (he was drunk again) I couldn't find them anywhere. About 10 minutes later they came from the house into the yard acting as if nothing happened. We left soon after and I was furious! Of course he claimed the next day that he doesn't remember disappearing with her - he became very upset and started crying saying how much he loves me etc. I have been putting up with his flirting and gawking at other women and I am tired of living like this. I feel as if I can't trust him when he is drinking - if he acts that way when I'm around how is he acting when I'm not there. He did cheat on me 1x when during the first 2 years of marriage and he knows how this almost destroyed me. I don't know if I can live with someone who I can't trust. When we go out I don't even enjoy myself - I'm always waiting for him to flirt or gawk and I can't stand living like this anymore. He is a different person when he is drinking otherwise he is a great husband and very supportive of me and our children. He only drinks when we go out or are at a party. This may sound naive, but do people really not remember things when they are drinking - it has never happened to me.