[71mopar383]

weve been married for 10 yrs now together for ovr 12. About 6 months before we ever started dating me and a friend I have known since jr high had a 1 night drunken stand..Since then she married on of my best friends who knows because they started dating right after actually later that week. It has never been talked about ever it happened I wasnt proud it happened and I dont think she was either. We all started hanging out about 6 yrs later their kids are the same age as ours she is one of my wifes best friends. I thought my wife knew and it never came up she knew we "dated" for a couple of days before she met her current husband but as I found out last night that was it. Now nothing has ever happened since with our friend or anyone else. Last night they had girls night out and were talking about how who met who and our friend got real nervous. So my wife asked me about it I didnt want to go there because we had both had a couple of drinks but it went there and badly. She feels like we have lied and betrayed her since everyone knew but her. So how do I start to repair the damage of something I did and didnt tell her about.

[71mopar383]

[bhoneycutt]

Sorry, I'm just seeing this for the first time. I usually hang out in the Pregnancy forums.

I think I can somewhat understand how your wife feels. I think it's mostly just shock at this point. It would be awful for me to find out that my husband had slept with someone that we currently hang out with. But on the other hand, it was before you and your wife started dating. It would make me feel relieved to know that it was a drunken one night stand, therefore, you probably don't have much memory of it and it couldn't have possibly meant that much since it did happen just the one time.

I would just keep reassuring your wife that it was before you started dating her and that it meant very little to you. I'll bet she just feels very insecure about the situation and needs a little time to adjust. It would be quite a shock to the system.

Since it's been a while since your original post, have things improved? Does she seem to be handling it OK or is she still fairly upset about it?

[QueenAngie]

Bhoneycutt, so true.

We all have favorite areas of fam.com that we frequent, so your original posting was missed, OP.

Hoping that things are looking up for you and your DW.