[ruthann8]

Yesterday evening I had a phone message to call my aunt on my bio dads side. Hmmmm, she has never called me. So I call her back……. she invited my to my grandmothers 80th b-day party. That’s nice, but NO THANK YOU. I do not care to see that side of the family especially my abusive grandmother!!! And if I am going to travel that far and have to ask for time off of work I’m going to visit my mom and people I actually like!!!!!

Luckily I never had to spend much physical time with my grandmother. But the letters and phone calls didn’t stop until after I turned 20. She is an evil cruel woman with LOTS of money and uses that money to manipulate her family. Her letters always stated things like, if you do or don’t do this my lawyers say I can change my will. Why would she say this to a child. When she got word I wasn’t planning on inviting her to my high school graduation she called my mom and tried to bribe her with money. I have refused to play her games.

But she is currently sick. Do I forgive and forget? Maybe I would if I was close to that side of the family, but I never talk to them, ever. I’m lucky if my dad calls once every 2-3 YEARS. My dad can’t even remember my b-day. I’m not sure if he knows I have a child. I just don’t think it’s worth the heartache. Maybe if it was a family reunion, but defiantly not my grandmas b-day.

The sad thing is when I heard the phone message the first thing that popped into my head was, maybe someone died! How sad it that. As a child/young adult I even had counseling to deal with my grandmother and everything else. I thought I was over it but after last night I have shed a few tears again. I hate this.