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Is it out of order not to holiday with my daughter ? advice please?

Hi
i have a massive dilemma i am a newly wed and i have a daughter who is 11 from a previous relationship
me and my husband plan to go to cuba to spend some time together and celebrate my graduation and we were going to take my daughter on another 1 week holiday as well to spain for a family holiday so she wouldn't feel left out but she wanted to come to cuba and acted like spain would be a punishment of some kind !!!

she is going through puberty and is very moody at the moment we said to her that she could to cuba come at first she was happy and then not a hour later she was playing up refusing to go to bed etc and im worried she will be the same on holiday once she has her own way ! and we told her she wouldnt be coming

i spoke to her this morning and said she could still come to cuba but if she plays up she will have to go in the club for a few afternoons to give us some space .. she shruged her sholders like and didnt care that id given her a second chance .

is it selfish to wait time alone and not take her ? am i being to soft ?

i really dont know what to do advice welcome
p.s my husband has raised her for 5 years and she doesnt have a issue with him she even asked for him to adopt her so shes not playing up for that reason .