[appleofmyeyes]

Hi, all. I'm new to the forum. Its Sunday morning and I'm in alone and in tears. Without getting into all the details, I'm LDS and married to an ex-Mormon-turned-Baptist. Our 11 y/o son was baptized LDS, but now his dad can't stand the Church and wants son to attend services with him. Actually, to keep the peace, I have also attended with them. However, today my son took a stand and announced that it was confusing him going to 2 churches (we switch off, or attend both worship services on Sundays). He said some Baptists say that LDS are not Christians and its his choice where he attends. This only further exacerbates my husband's 'issues' w/the church. I'm stuck in the middle - only wanting NOT to hurt my son, but I can't control the choices my DH is making, or what he believes. Further, my DH & I have nearly divorced and are finally trying to rebuild the marriage. To divorce him would break my son's heart. What can I do? It seems there is no answer here.

[QueenAngie]

So sorry with what has been going on the last few months in your family!

Sounds like you and DH would both benefit from marital counseling.
If DH will not attend, go by yourself.

I know there are many LDS members on board here that could help you.

Obviously, religion is important to your family - all 3 of you.

Could all 3 of you attend the Baptist church on Sundays together as a family?

Maybe on another time or date, you could go to the LDS meeting.

In your heart of hearts, do you feel God is encouraging you to stay LDS or convert to Baptist too? Only you know the true answer.

Prayers for you & your family, my dear!

[Firespice]

Welcome to the board!!! AND BIG hugs to you. that is tough to take.

Well of course I suggest prayer, and maybe go and talk to your Bishop.

I know you want your son to be happy, and sometime they choose things we don't like. I have found that other church's (who really don't understand LDS values) say some really harsh and confusing things about our beliefs and it can be confusing to a young mind. You teach your son what you believe to be true, and always set a good example for him and your husband. No matter what church any of you attend.

As for not believing in Christ.... just take out your quad and show him the side where it say "The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints" It cant get much clearer then that. Then he can choose to believe what he wants.

Also a piece of advice you might give your son to help him decide on his own. If he wants to understand the teachings of the LDS church talk to and listen to an LDS person. If he wants to learn about the teachings of the Baptist church talk to and listen to a Baptist. But and LDS person wont be able to explain properly the Baptist religion and a Baptist person wont be able to explain the LDS religion. Especially a convert from one to the other. A convert is someone who chooses one religion over another and didn't like/understand the other religion. Does that make sense? I hear a general authority explain it better once......

HUGS to you!

suzie

[babydawn]

I grew up with a family that the mother was LDS and the father was Baptist. The children alternated every Sunday which service they went to. Then, at the age of 18, they got to choose which church to join. I know that you said you have been trying to have your son attend both, and it is too bad that DH church comes down on other religions. Not all Baptist churches are like that. I don't know if you DH would be up for finding another Baptist church that perhaps realizes that bashing other religions is not Christlike. My husband's uncle, aunts are baptist. We went and stayed with them for a week (we live on opposite sides of the country), and they talked of how they searched out a church that DIDN'T do that because they felt it was wrong. Baptists believe in the same Bible we do, sure some of the interpretations are different, but still.... I am so sorry to hear of you going through this. You really should pray about it. Keep us posted. I am sorry there isn't an easy answer.

[swt1899]

My sister is going through the same thing. We were all raised Lutheran and when she married her husband (a catholic) the family was all bent out of shape over where they would get married. They compromised and had a small catholic ceremony. And they had agreed on attending both types of services... well now after the birth of their daughter he is going back on what they had agreed on and wants the child raised catholic only and refuses to allow them to attend the Lutheran services. We are all upset because we don't understand... both are Christian churches and teach the values that we all hold so dear.
I think we all need to look at what values are important. We may belong to different denominations, but the values and the main messages are all the same.
I hope that things can be worked out for you and your family. I know this is tough. Keep faith and I know there are many LDS support sources on here. Many prayers and hugs to you.