[ppie]

Hello, I'm obviously new here. I found this site by accident and am hoping i can get a little support here. I'm tired of people saying the same things when I tell them I can't get pregnant. I'm sick of the "well you're still young" and "sometimes it just takes time" etc. They don't seem to understand.

I'm 27 years old. I have stage 4 endometriosis which has caused a full bilateral tubal blockage. I DO have one child (i had him when i was 19) from not my husband. This causes strain as anyone can imagine. A little over a year ago I had surgery on both my ovaries. They both had infections (they thought it was cancer) on them about the size of oranges, BIG naval oranges. This caused stress on my ovaries, as you can imagine and neither of them are sitting where they should be. One is on top of my uterus, the other is just high,

I went through an IVF cycle, and it didn't work. I didn't have mature enough eggs and it just wasn't right. It was a little soon after my surgery (i had it in february and we did the cycle in september). We're going to be going to a new DR, one that apparently is an expert at getting eggs in hard to reach places in May. Until then, we're trying the good old fashion way, even though we both know that it could never really happen. It's a let down every month when I'm not pregnant.

Why doesn't the government cover this. If we have to go through the whole thing with donor eggs (which is the likely scenario), it will cost us well over $10,000. I find all this frustrating and heart breaking. I see all these people having babies everywhere I go. Jesus, Brittney Spears has two and she's about as unfit as they get. I'm a good mom, why can't I have another baby with the man I love?

[Alejandros Mommy]

Firstly hello and welcome to families

Have you thought of unwated eggs. There is a place ( I forgot then name) that takes unwanted/un needed eggs and gives them to families so they can have a child. It would be a whole lot cheaper.

I will also give our fertility mods a PM they both have been through fertility treatment.

[wanttobemommy]

Hello My name is Kristin.I am one of the two fertlity treatment mods. DH and I were TTC from May 05 until Jan of 07. During the time we were TTC we had expierenced 4 losses. I too had a son from a previous relationship. Unforntunatly he passed away 30 mins after he was born he was born at 22w. I know how terribly hard it is to not get pregnant. We were diagnosed in August of 05 with unexplained infertility. DH then had a sperm test which revealed less than normal count. Im am truely sorry that you are having a hard time getting preggers. I know how important it is to share a child with your DH. I will pray for you and keep you in my thoughts. Jennifer our other Fertility Mod had IVF as well. I hope that between the both of us you can get the answers you need.

[wanna be a young mother]

Hello & welcome to families!


I also found this site by accident while going through a really hard time TTC. The women on here are soooo supportive. I know this sounds odd but really I dont think I would have been able to go on without them. Each and everyone of them are like family to me. This is a wonderful place to get help or just vent when you need to.

I have been TTC for 5 years. The last 27 months of which I was going through infertility treatments. I have PCOS and hypothyroidism. My tubes were clear and everything else with me was fine. Dh had a perfect sperm count and was as healthy as can be. BUT for some reason we could not get pregnant. I've used clomid, Gonal-f, follistim and have done a few IUI's as well but no baby. Finally on my last cycle of the year the Dr. decided to increase my dose of gonal-f. Well I eneded up with 26 eggs and I couldn't do an IUI. So we did an IVF cycle. I ended up with a bad side effect called OHSS (caused by to many eggs). I became pregnant that first cycle with twins. I lost baby B @ around 6 weeks but I delivered my daughter a month early at 35 weeks. She's my miracle. I know how you feel about people not understanding. I am sure if you pop on the TTC board and ask the ladies how many of you feel that if you hear just one more person say "its just not your time or it happens in Gods time" you will scream at them?" I bet all of them would say ME!! I think people dont know what to say when someone is trying and trying and nothing is happening. That want to make you feel better but dont know how. So sometimes they say things that bug us but to them its their way of saying I am sorry this is taking so long.

I really hope your next IVF cycle goes better and you get pregnant. If you need support we are all here for eachother. If you have anymore ?'s please feel free to ask me or Pm me. Also you may want to stop on the TTC board and talk to the ladies. They are all going through the same thing and will be a wonderful support network for you while TTC.

As for insurance companies.....they ALL suck!! Some states MUST cover infertility treatments but the companies know the loop holes to get out of it. I live in ILL and this is a MUST cover state but my Dh's company buys insurance outside of our state in a state without an infertility coverage law. So we get screwed. I paid about $10-15,000 for my IVF cycle plus the $1,200 a year to freeze my extra embryos.

[MiaCamille]

i just wanted to welcome you here and to say i'm sorry that you are going through this.

[mslinda]

Do not be discourage, you have to be proactive, I may not went through what you went through, but after my first miscarriage last year, due to whatever reason, I couldn't conceive afterward. I was so worried if there's something wrong with me or my husband, instead of seeing OB, I saw 3 different OB, 1 fertility specialist to reassure myself that my miscarriage was just bad implantation.
It is costly to see a fertility specialist bc it's not cover with some insurance. But it's definitely worth to seek second or third opinion. I am currently seeing a fertilist specialist, he's more proactive than my previous OB dr.

[punkepooh]

Hi and welcome, I know how you feel about people saying things, I know they mean well but when you are in the midst of TTC it is just worse to hear. I too have PCOS and we have had trouble TTC since our m/c almost 2 years ago. We have done clomid and we are waiting to find a fertility specialist who will work with our insurance, until then we too are just trying the old fashioned route. Good luck to you on your next cycle I know this will work out for all of us before to long!