[ganji]

sorry,
i lost my kid too 9 years ago. she lived for just 2 months. her name was keerthana. i was in sorrow for more than 3 years for that. we do not have children now. i felt guilty and often got angry with my wife then. it was a great pain and misery. i understand and feel for you

[mrsrentz2004]

I lost my daughter a different way she had a heart attack, she was born at 24 weeks and she lived 8 hours, she was my first baby and I asked God why her and not me everyday for a year. I still grieve for her and always will. I still cry when I talk about her but talking helps me alot and meeting nice mothers like you that know what I deal with everyday. I pray that God wraps his arms around you and comforts you and your family.

[MiaCamille]

so sorry for your losses ladies....

[tsunamimami]

I recently lost my son Sebastian at 11weeks old on January 11th 2008. The medical examiners report came back inconclusive so they diagnosed Sebastian as a SIDS death. I had been a stay at home mom (I have a 20 month old also) and I had just returned back to work (pressured by my boyfriend the father of my children). My boyfriend promised me he would wake up every day and care for my children while I would work (my boyfriend works nights). I woke him up and left for work as I had done every day for 2 weeks - I got the worst phone call at my lunch time, My boyfriend had said my son didn't look like he was breathing. HE CALLED ME - NOT 911. Apparantly my boyfriend had just woke up (1pm), I left for work at 9am. I hung up on him right away and called 911 - I drove home as fast as I could and when I got there there was yellow police tape all over the front of my house - I knew right away something was VERY wrong!! They told me my son was gone and he had been deceased for a few hours (3-4).
What I'm trying to say is that although the medical examiner had diagnosed my son as a SIDS death .. I believe in my heart that my boyfriend took my son into bed w/him and then fell back asleep .. eventually rolling on top of him and killing him. I am just beside myself - My bf has admitted to doing no wrong and that just pisses me off. I still have a 20 month old baby girl to care for and love but I don't feel I could ever trust him alone w/my baby again. He is now asking me if I'll have another baby w/him.
Has anyone else experienced this? Can anyone offer advise? Please help!

[quagmire8]

so sorry for your loss. your baby is very beautiful. it is a terrible thing you are going through. seems like you and your boyfriend have a lot of things to work through before you bring another child into the family. would it be possible to seek some grief/relationship counseling? best of luck to you. my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family....

[Tracey with 6]

My thoughts and prayers are with you all, there can be no worse apin then that of lossing a child, i wish there wass something I could say or do to help you through this .

[songbirdxx]

Having just read the posts about sudden infant death syndrome,I felt I couldn't just read about this then walk away without adding something to the caring replies already posted.I have never experienced the loss of a child and those and only those who have suffered this tragedy really know how it feels. For this reason I do not feel able to share regarding this. I do have my thoughts on getting through all of lifes pain and all of lifes joys and somehow be able to experience both hand in hand.The path of life is one where we find many joys and many obstacles.Nothing in life gives us more joy than the birth of a child.Nothing in life is more painful than the loss of a child.So I believe when we experience such extremes of emotion, there is also no other joy or no other obstacle which will ever touch us to the same extent ever again, apart from the joy of another child, the joy of children we already have and the hope that it will never happen again.I believe we must hold on to the pain in life and hold on to the joy of life and somehow find a way of embracing both as part of our journey.No matter how difficult that journey is, everyone has their own path. It is theirs,it belongs to them and that is special.I wish all of you who have suffered the loss of a child, peace in the knowledge your children will never know the pain in life, only the joys of eternal life and that too is very special.

[KR258]

I am so sorry. Your son is beautiful. If you're uncomfortable leaving your daughter with him then don't and if you're not ready to have another one don't be pressured into it. Talk to him about your feelings and try counseling if not for both of you, for yourself to help you with the loss of your son.
I lost my boy a hour after birth because he was premature. I love him just as much as I love my daughter who I've had for much longer. I can't imagine losing her after having lost him so keep your little girl close. If you feel like you need to protect her then do, even if your bf turns out to have done nothing wrong, if keeping her close helps then its ok. No one will ever replace your little boy and as far as I know there is nothing that will take away the pain but your little girl still needs you. I'll be praying for you and your family.