[MarinesladyWhitney]

So, it's only been 3 months since my husband and I decided we would start ttc and I really hate it! The long waits to find out that once again I am not pregnant, the friends who magically become pregnant and tell me "and we weren't even trying", and the mind tricks I play on myself. I think every pain, craving, emotion, etc is definitely a sign of pregnancy. When we started we said we would just kind of see what happened, we didn't want to be desperate for a baby and become crushed every month that it didn't occur, but here we are desperate and crushed.
It's only been 3 months (2 of which I wasn't even accurately charting) yet I am being told by a close friend that I should have my husbands sperm checked already, which I know it's probably too soon to worry about that kind of thing. Geez, this is no fun at all!
I just needed to vent, thanks for reading.

[Kats Playland]

Don't worry we all go threw it. I was at the point of giving up when I found out I was pg this time... My daughter was a "surprise" so I figured it would be easy, not. Just try and de-stress some. It takes a normal couple up to 6mo to get pg with thier first child... Which is hard to hear, but true. And if you haven't talked to you Dr about you all trying; then you should... Some of them will run test to see if everything is a go. Good luck and hopefully you'll get your bfp soon.

[angelic_ky]

i found this some time back... it really can take a fair while to fall PG

http://forums.families.com/ttc-the-stats,t106041

[quagmire8]

TTC can be very very tough....it really can take up to a year though for healthy people to get pregnant. try to enjoy the time you guys have together now and HAVE FUN! This is a very special time in your relationship! Best of luck to you! I hope you get that BFP really soon, and if not, we are here to listen!

[KR258]

's I am sorry that it's getting you frustrated. I know how hard it is to find out you're not pg when you've been wanting it so much and trying so hard even though you said you'd just wait and see...and just have fun. It's hard to keep it in perspective. My first was a accident. My second was one too...my current pg took me 9 months to conceive and I had cycle issues...but sometimes it just takes awhile even when you don't have any problems. It's all chance really. I am sure you will get your bfp soon! Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!! I suggest taking prenatal vitamins if you're not already and make sure dh is taking his own vitamins too and talk to your doctor just to let him know your plans. He may have suggestions but it is too soon to be worried.

[MarinesladyWhitney]

Thanks for the kind words everyone. My first was a surprise as well, so that's probably why we feel like it's taking forever. I was shocked when I saw that each month the normal couple has a 15%-30% chance of conceiving, that's really low. We'll keep trying, it's hard because my husband is deployed to Iraq 6 or 7 months out of the year so we don't have a lot of time to keep trying before he leaves me again but we shall see. Maybe I'll get pregnant the month before he leaves and he'll be home for the birth ( he wouldn't be able to make it to the birth if we were pg right now).

[mcmama]

Yeah, those folks who just get pregnant so easily really can be a drag when you are trying and wanting. And deployment does not help.

Have you considered trying for artificial insemination if you don't conceive by the time your husband is deployed? If you are willing to experience pregnancy alone, and he is willing to go along with this, it might be an option of increasing your chances. Not as much fun as trying together of course - but a possibility.

Meantime, enjoy trying! And I agree, it is likely too soon to evaluate sperm count and make it such a big deal. Only do that if he really wants to.

What does your husband do? Is he on the ground or in the air?

[MarinesladyWhitney]

I hadn't even considered artifitial insemination, I will definitely have to look into that because as weird as it sounds it would work out better for us for me to become pregnant while he's gone, that way he would be able to get home for the end of my pregnancy, experience some of that, then see the birth. Hmm, I will definitely have to see about that. The only thing I would have worry about is the weird looks people might give me if I pop up pregnant while he's gone, lol
He's a marine by the way, he's a driver for the 7 ton trucks.

[mcmama]

Yeah, you might get some weird looks. But hey, tough times call for creative solutions - and artificial insemination is not so unheard of as it used to be.

Meantime, like we said, have fun trying - and don't let anyone else pressure you.

[quagmire8]

This pregnancy is the result of IUI. If you have any questions, just ask!

TTC is tough in general, but with your DH serving our country, that has to be very hard. Look into insemination, if done by an OBGYN it isnt as expensive when compared to going to a specialist. good luck!!