[NewMomNewHope4MeandAll]

After giving birth in Feb, 08' and surviving the long, painful three day labor, I have been enlightened and convinced that women are beyond princesses.

Men, if you have children, treat them well. Treat your wife, girlfriend, partner a million times better for her sacrifice.

I do not speak for all women, but since I am a woman I am sure that on some level what I have to share may be helpful to you and appreciated by mothers!

We women sacrifice so much and with life getting stressful and faster when kids come, men do not ignore your wife.

Tell her she is beautiful. Appreciate her more. Love her more. Enjoy your relationship. Ask her what her goals are Listen to her. Surprise her with things you know she will love. Do not lose sight of the things you both loved or like. Spend that Friday night, goofing around and just having fun.

Make her feel very special. valuable, wonderful and appreciated. Kiss her. Hug her. Love her. Compliment her when she least expects it. Say "thank you" and "I love you" more.

Enjoy discovering new things about each other. Do something new.
Love her!
NEW MOM, NEW HOPE 4 ME AND ALL
P.S In your hard times, do not yell at her but see it as an opportunity to learn from each other and figure out the root of the problem. If you yell and/or say some bad things apologize and work it out.

[pinball9818]

Congratulations!
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As a man, I feel a bit prejudged, however. A lot of what you say Men need to improve upon could benefit Women as well. Yes, I agree there is nothing more important that a Woman can experience than the joy of childbirth. Men cannot compete with this. But some men practice your suggestions more than their women reciprocate.
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I believe my wife is a princess because she allowed us to share the joy of childbirth, and the wonderful feeling of becoming parents...together. Yes, it's true that I did not experience the physical pain of childbirth. I did, however, experience a form of it seeing my wife in pain. While holding her hand for every minute of labor.

[chupster]

My problem with this is, real men in good and healthy relationships already know how wonderful their women are (whether or not they have been through childbirth) and don't enjoy being preached at like this (especially in such a one-sided manner; as pinball stated, women could take the same advice- don't think that all men are as hateful as yours seems to be). And other men are just going to see it as annoying, because frankly it's more than a little sexist.

I recognize that men can't carry a child and give birth, nor go through the pain or discomforts that come with it, and don't get me wrong, I have nothing but respect, love, caring and awe for my wife, whose hand I held as I basically watched her become disemboweled (c-section) in front of me, and I did everything I could to see to her every need before, during, and after the childbirth, as well as in our lives together in general.

But your message comes across as "women can do this great thing and suffer unimaginably for you so treat us like gold," and I have to say- it isn't like men don't suffer as well. In some cases we work backbreaking jobs under terrible conditions and during ungodly hours to make sure that there's food on the table and a roof over our families' heads and still have to get up at regular hours to spend some time with our loved ones and children, and that's not nine months- that's every day. My grandfather in particular worked every bit of backbreaking overtime that he could, to the point that one year he literally had 2 days off in one entire year and slept many times in the break room of the factory, and he retired as a man who could no longer walk because of that job, who had to use a walker to get around and a riding lawnmower to get to his mailbox, and died without being able to enjoy his final few years, and through it all he was nothing less than a kind gentlemen that everyone liked, and he never, ever complained about anything because it was all for his family.

If childbirth makes you a princess, then what my grandfather did makes him a king.