[shazbo]

do we really go though these or is it just that if some thing goes wrong we say we are going though a mid life crisis any one the answer

[seeemilywrite]

i was actually told i was going through a quarter life crisis. For me its a "What am I doing with my life" moment, I think the same is for the mid-life ones. You just question your choices, that is real.

[workingdad]

I think it's mostly pop psychobabble.

[writehandgirl]

Originally Posted by seeemilywrite

i was actually told i was going through a quarter life crisis. For me its a "What am I doing with my life" moment, I think the same is for the mid-life ones. You just question your choices, that is real.

Yeah. I think I had one of those myself.

I think it comes when people question their mortality, which people tend to do as they hit certain ages. Normal, I suppose. I've been doing it since I was a kid. I was a very odd child.

[MJ7]

I believe SOME people do go through a mid-life crisis. My dad who was a teen when mom had me, married my mom and had a house by 19. He came from a wealthier family and was supposed to complete college. Work and family was demanding of him and it was difficult for him to get too far in it.

Oh dear...at about 36 or so something snapped in him! He went out and bought a fully loaded new car, had some cosmetic surgery, started tanning, working out, eating better...all these things were great! He was a bit flirty though with other females and of course this made Mom feel uncomfortable. He went and started some computer courses, got a second job teaching...this lasted I want to say, about a year, then, it was out of his system and I got my old dad back.

I wonder if people don't live life a little before rushing into marriage and family if they just bottle up regret until one day it explodes? There's more to the story of my dad, but I wouldn't want him to know I was sharing too much about him .

My mom hit a period recently which is about a year since my brothers flew from the nest. My quiet and reserved mom is now volunteering and becoming social. I heard she was working out and I really hope this isn't a phase but she continues.

I don't think a mid-life crisis has to be a bad thing. Now, if my dad was going out with other women, that would be a different story. But he was commited to doing good for himself.

[beth]

I've intrigued by the concept of a quarter life crisis. At what age does one have a quarter life crisis?? Does it ward off a mid life crisis?

[horsepower222]

what do you mean by mid life crisis.

[jasonbauer]

If someone could be so kind I need some help/advice. I feel as though I may be heading if not already into a midlife crisis and don't know what I should do?

[beth]

Originally Posted by jasonbauer

If someone could be so kind I need some help/advice. I feel as though I may be heading if not already into a midlife crisis and don't know what I should do?

Hi Jason,
Maybe if you could outline what the problem is we could have a better idea of how to help you. Alternatively if you think you would like professional counseling you can contact me at the address below. Best wishes, Beth

[JasonLekberg]

I think that the realization that you are unhappy with your life is a sideproduct of being swept away by a society of expectations. That having been said, I think that it is also heavily influenced by social media who need you to feel unhappy so you will buy thier product. At the end of the day, most people's lives could be allot worse, and if you've already made the choice to have children, I think you have a responsibility to focus on the good you do have and not allow your unhappiness to effect that childs life.