[Rebecca246]

My husband and I have not been married very long and we are already having some pretty major problems. Im not really sure where to start this.
My husband's parents are very very involved in our lives, despite the fact that we live on the opposite side of the country. They are constantly giving us money. Now, I know this does not sound like a bad thing, but it has passed generosity and actually become offensive: they give us money to "help us get through" or so my husband can "take his wife out for a nice dinner." I should also point out that my husband and I are finacially stable...things may be tight some months, but we make ends meet and have enough money to have fun together and with our son. My husband does not see a problem with them giving us money all the time. I do, because I need for his parents to realize that he is a grown up now and capable of providing for his family and does not need them to hold his hand for the rest of his life and also because these "gifts" tend to have hidden price tags...My husband and I have talked about this and I have expressed my opinions to him and how it makes me feel...he in turn told me that while he doesn't necessarily agree with me, he understands where I am coming from and respects my decision, so he will no longer accept money from his family. (That is another thing, it is always given to him when I am not around) Shortly after this conversation we receive a cheque in the mail from his parents and he tells me his not going to cash it. Great start...So everything is just peachy...or so I thought.
The other night I was going over our bank records for the past six months to try to redo our budget...We have three accounts, mine, his and ours. He gave me permision to look at his so I could the full picture of our spending habits. As I am looking at it, I am noticing that on several occasions there are fairly substantial (200-500) transfers from an account number I didnt recognize. I got a little suspicious so I pulled up the month he was given the chegue...and there it was, deposited in his account. When I asked him about it, he said he couldnt remember what that cheque was...long story short, he lied. This similar situation has happened two other times.
Now he is telling me that he swears no more money will come in and that since I have called him on his lies he has called his parents and told them to not give any more money? I want to beleive him, but how can I? How can we rebuild this trust?