[Magic_Mikki]

I can't get something off my mind that my mother in law said to me a few weeks ago. My best friend- Lindsay- and I like so much alike! We have been asked many, many times if we're twins. We have the same body shape, hair color, same height, everything. My friend actually has a twin (not identical) named Lauren , and the two girls don't look a thing alike! My husband dated Lauren a while back, and that is actually how DH and I met! Anyway, a few weeks ago my MIL was talking about how different the girls' bodies are, and how unfortunate it is that Lindsay got the "bad genes" of the family, and how big she is. Lindsay is NOT a big girl by any means!! She is a size 8, for crying out loud! Her twin, Lauren, is indeed a ton skinnier, something like a size 2, but she's also super tall, and Lauren at one point didn't look too healthy. But she's still really small. My MIL continued on about how different they are, and Lindsay must be so jealous that Lauren is so skinny and Lindsay is fat, blah blah blah! She even mentioned how she could see why my husband chose to date Lauren back in the day and not Lindsay!

I was insulted and was about to cry, because it is so well known in my family and DH's family that Lindsay and I look so much alike, body shape and everything! MIL has even commented a few times herself how similar we are!

God, she really Pi$$es me off!!! I feel like she just does these things as a way to stab me! We get along for the most part, but it's obvious (especially when DH got married) that she's having a hard time surrendering her Mommy status! We NEVER had these problems of her indirectly insulting me until I got pregnant with #1 and DH and I got married! She knew then that I was permanant, and that's when she started saying crappy things to me.

Well, thanks for letting me vent! I have been thinking about this situation since it happened, and it makes me mad even just thinking about it! LoL! Grrr!

[Alejandros Mommy]

Just tell her that your Dh prefers a healthy woman and not one that starves herself. What a rude thing for her to say to you.

[JeanLynn81]

Good retort Lessly!

Yup, that would definately get my blood boiling. You have a good reason to be upset. Maybe making out a list of witty responses to use in the future might help you to feel better about it? Good luck!

[LovingJesusinAZ]

I'm so sorry you have to deal with that!! That really stinks!!

If it were me I'd probably have started crying right then and there. Would it be possible (I know it isn't always, for a variety of reasons) for your DH to talk to his mom and say something to the effect of "I chose Michelle and I married her because I love who she is/how she looks. In the future, do not insult my wife if you expect to see me or the grandkids"

My dad is verbally abusive. He "behaves" himself around my DH but at Thanksgiving he lost his temper and went into one of his rages--this time his anger was directed at my sister and her husband. DH made it known to me that if my Dad EVER did that to me he'd stand up to my dad and say "Heidi is my wife and I will not allow her or my kids to be treated like that."

[etali]

Size 8 sounds like a perfect size to me - and besides, your husband married YOU, didn't he?

Seriously, she's the insecure, petty one to be saying stuff like that - it's not a dig that will get her any where, it just makes her sound like a pathetic, insecure woman. Rise above it (OK, so I'd be tempted to dig at her less than perfect figure, her wrinkles, or something... but it's not worth it really - you'll come off better if you just take the comment for the petty stupidity it was, and forget it).

[DK615617]

Oooh, that is a nasty woman!!!!!
And yes, it would be soo sooo soooo tempting to stoop to her level or lower (If possible) and make some comments about her, and how sad and misserable she is......or to rub it in how you have her son......but, that might just make her worse.
Just know that your dh chose you not the super skinny girl.
He loves you!!!!!! So, try to ignore the nasty MIL........she sounds like a bit of a beast.
Hang in there. We are always hear to vent to.

I didn't realize how old this was till I posted.....opppps.
So has she been behaving herself lately??

[mcmama]

I haven't seen size 8 since I was, uh, 8. So that's a good size.

We have a wedding coming up in a few weeks - my son is marrying this really great girl. Well, the brides mom got a call from the girl's uncle (fathers brother) - saying "you didn't come to my daughters wedding, so I am not coming to your daughters wedding". They had not gone to the earlier wedding for some very good reasons such as having to work.

So I love this - the brides grandma (the uncle's mom) got on the phone, called the uncle, and said "WHAT IS THE MATTER WITH YOU???" Totally dissed him for being mean and not just politely declining if he didn't want to come, and told him what a great time he was missing.

There's power in being a matriarch. But you have to use it wisely. Sounds like your MIL is just being catty.

[QueenAngie]

How are things going for you these days?

[Magic_Mikki]

Thank you to all who responded and gave me your support! I really appreciate it!

As for an update, MIL hadn't really made any comments since then. However, I have a feeling that my husband possibly mentioned to her that I was upset by the comment because the last couple of months my Father in law has been making alllll sorts of comments of how much weight it looks like I've lost. LoL!! I could take it the wrong way, but truthfully, the guy was just trying to be nice! Not to mention, I had lost a bit of weight at the beginning of my pregnancy due to morning sickness, but started gaining it all back by that point! But he insists how 'skinny' I've been looking these days! hehehe!! Ummm.. Thanks! (I never know what to say to that!)

Thanks again for the support, guys!

[Labhaoise]

Glad that things are getting better. I hope they stay that way for a verrrrrryyy long time... you shouldn't have to put up with comments like this from anyone, but most of all family.