Motherhood Creates Anger with Partner-How About You?
Since having my princess last Feb. 08', I have been experiencing and off and on anger with my partner.
I sacrificied just about 10 months of my body to have a baby, my once perfect breast formation, time, career and so much more that I find hard to pinpoint.
I find my partner does not realize the sacrifice I did, considering that an emergency c-section was not anticipated, considering my weight gain, healthy pregnancy and exercise I did during my pregnancy. I was in labor three days, with no sleep, exhausted and did not benefit from the drugs that aimed to stop my early labor. (Only 2 weeks early).
I gained the notion and attitude that we women are not given the full respect we deserve. Men just sit back and relax through the time we are pregnant, while our physical, emotional and mental health is stretched, overwhelmed and overworked. When the baby is crying, many times we are expected to remedy that situation.
At times I get into that syndrome like.."look I carried the baby all these months, 1 breastfed and ruined the look of my breasts for our baby, I take care of her while I still feel like getting out there into the world like working or something AND you get to still enjoy the same things you did before we conceived...IT IS MY TURN NOW....you sacrifice some more now!"
I find myself angry with him because I feel that a woman should be promoted a lot higher after giving birth. The partner should be so much more giving, understanding....SO MUCH MORE!
I know that these experiences and outlooks I have shared here are based a lot on my situation and may have been different if I would have had a different experience, but I think in many ways any woman from any race, age, culture or background can relate to me.
Sometimes I notice how a couple shared a great love in front of me and once they had a baby, I would sense some stress, anger or frustration from the woman more than the man. I would see the man stressed and the woman angry in a suttle way.
Of course I do not speak for all, but something must be going on after women give birth with their partner, self, and in general. Of course it is a new beginning and chapter AND A new transition.
What I do know is that I love my princess more than anything and even when I feel I do not do enough for her, it just signals as a reminder for me that it shows I love her dearly!
I know becoming a mother is a beautiful time in a woman's life but perhaps societal norms may affect how one treats, perceives and views a mother. WHO KNOWS?!!!!!
I feel better to have put these few feelings out there and wonder what kind of feedback would arise from this.
I thank you all for your time and interest in my short blog. Thank you, take care and God Bless.
*NEW MOM NEW HOPE 4 ME AND ALL*
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