My husband and I are preparing to move to the U.S. in a month after living in Germany for two years (the first two years of our marriage). My husband is from Germany and we agreed to start there and move back to the U.S. after he finished his degree.
Our original goal was to move to the midwest, close to my parents and grandparents (approx. 4 hours driving) so that we could be closer to family. Recently though we took a train trip which took us through some large cities, and it reminded us of how much we love the big city. We had dreamt about moving to a larger city on the east coast like New York when we move back, but then decided on being closer to family.
My husband's chances of getting a job with his credentials are much better in a large city. I would love to just take the chance and try it. We have a 7 month old baby boy but I feel confident raising him in either location. My struggle is that part of me really feels so guilty for thinking of not being closer to my grandparents while they are still with us. They are in their late 80's. One is in a nursing home. My parents are both in good health. Has anyone ever been in this situation?
There are several areas that you have not mentioned that are
in the midwest - Chicago, St. Louis, Louisville.
Family is important, and spending time with them would only
increase the family bonds for your 7 month old.
Let us know where you decide to settle.
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Hello from Central Illinois, USA!
We are Peanut Butter & Jelly =
Sandwich Generation.
28th Wedding Anniv in 2009.
Blessed w/ 2 sons: age 23 & 20 in college & my elderly father 87, our 'older kid.'
Yes, my partners father lived with us though, we made the decision to stay put while he was still with us, after that we moved on. My parents visit us, we visit them, it works out well for us.
Move closer to family, or go our own way?
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