[Mary46]

I am so confused about my mothers behavior...I don't know what to do or who I should talk to. She is very difficult to be around, so negative about everyone and everything. She has been verbally abusive to my husband in our home, and then played the victim when he told her to mind her own business. That was 6 months ago. Yesterday in a phone conversation she brought it up and put the blame on my mother-in-law and my friend who witnessed her outburst. My sisters husband has also been on the receiving end of her fury. They make no attempts to see her. My husband is angry but understands she's my mom. I want to have a healthy relationship with her, but it's hard. I think she is trying to protect us, from what I don't know! I'm 45, my sister is 53. We both have happy marriages. I don't know what to do.