[elle3334]

Hello all, I need a little advice, I am in a new relationship with the best guy I have ever met. We have been dating for 3 mos. He has two adult children, one of which lives with him. that daughter has two children of her own also living with grandpa. Both of the girls are really nice people, however, they are not used to sharing Dad with anyone significant. Dad and I have spent oodles of time together and thus, reducing the amount of time with his daughters. The daughter that lives with him does not drive and stays at home with her kids. Basically, she relies on dad to take care of everything. Now that dad is busy with new girlfriend, live in daughter is now causing problems between other daughter and ex-wife relating to me. She says that I am mean to her 15mo old and that I don't want her around. Also that I have said things about her mom. (Derogatory) This is all wierd to me since I myself have a 5mo old daughter and a 12 year old. My kids are my life. My 12 year old is more mature than the recent actions of his 21 yr old. We both had long term marriages and we are so very compatible. I need to know how to handle this situation with grace because I am not willing to give up on a guy who meets all of my criteria except standing up to his girls. I am just a different kind of parent. The real downer is that I no longer feel comfortable going over to his house in fear of more lie and gossip.

I need real ways to cope with my hurt and come to terms with what thier needs may be.