[erinellakal]

Wasn't sure where to put this. This seemed most appropriate.

I am going to start off by saying my brother is a wonderful person. He is the best uncle and brother and dad any one could ask for.

My question at the end of this is how do I explain it all to my my kids?

My brother is 35. He's been married twice. He has one 12 year old daughter from his 1st marriage.
He is still married to his second wife but recently(weekend b4 christmas) found out she has been having an affair. His wife has moved out.
My kids love his wife, they have nick named her "favorite aunt nikki".

Last night he stopped over and asked if we had any corn cuz he was having a "friend" over for dinner! Then he told me it was the girl that cuts my hair.
Is it just me or it everything moving very quickly here?????

On to his first wife.....we're still friends and the kids call her "auntie". She has had the same boy friend for a couple years but he is leaving her! My kids have grown close to him too.

So now how do i explain why "Favorite Aunt Nikki is around anymore? How do I explain why theres a new girl? And how do i explain that Auntie's boyfriend is gone too?

OR

Do i just not say anything and let it blow over and hope they don't ask any questions?
I dont' want my kids to know that divorce exists. Or that people get NEW boy friends and girls friends so quickly.

And is there anything I can do to help my 12 year old neice through all of this?
Anyone have any suggestions?

[mcmama]

Your brother is playing the rebound zone, and there is not much you can do about it. Stay in touch with Favorite Aunt Nikki if she still wants to.

As for telling the kids where everyone went, just explain that big people have disagreements sometimes and decide to not stay together anymore. But people can still stay family and friends, just not together. Make sure your kids know that YOU are not thinking this.

But given the ages of your kids, just take the questions as they come. One at a time. Otherwise, it can be an overload.

[browneyes01]

I don't think that is something for you to explain, I think that is a job for you r brother as he is the one that brim=ngs the women around your children, and maybe when your brother is in these relationships that he doesn't bring the women he is dating around your kids because he doesn't know and you don't know how long the relationships are going to last and you don't want your children getting attached to someone that probably won't be around.