[lavatea]

My three year old will not obey me. It is especially bad at nap times. I put her in her room and she will not nap. I know that I can't make her nap, but I can't even make her stay in her bed. I'm trying very hard to use methods of discipline besides spanking (not that spankings work with her anyway), but I'm having a hard time thinking of appropriate discipline for not staying in her bed. Time-out seems silly for a nap time violation, for example. If we try quiet time in her room instead of nap time, she just destroys her room - which I then can not get her to clean up. Unless we stand over her and point out every toy individually, she will not pick up. I've tried taking away Blankey, which made her cry, but it did not influence her behavior. What can I do??

By the way, this behavior has gone on for quite a while now - way before brother came home from the hospital.