[IamWHO]

I agree with what everybody has said...except Samuel for saying you should separate. Everybody has some sort of emotional problem at some point in their life that affects those around them. You don't give up on your marriage because of a rough patch. "...death do us part." Why are people so quick to give up and break their vows? Liars! Quitters! Am I harsh? That's how I feel.

HOWEVER. I do think you are in a very sticky situation and something needs to be done about it ASAP. Would he agree to marriage counseling? A third party who is a professional is relationships can really make a difference with the communication skills. And IF this lack of trust is really because of his own insecurities, then he should see a counselor on his own. BUT, from what I know about psychology and my own experiences, many times when a person can't trust other's it is because they themselves cannot be trusted. We all naturally assume other's work the same way work. Cheaters and liars assume other people are cheaters and liars. Often these accusations are an attempt to take the attention away from their own poor behavior. We point the finger at other people to make ourselves seem better. It's also a way of keeping the other person on their toes and in a state of self-defense, so they are too occupied to be on the offensive and see the signs: in other words, they are hoping the other person is too busy defending themselves to discover their secrets. And if they can catch the other person in the act, then it relieves them from some of their own guilt.

I hope you can reach some sort of happy resolve with this issue. I suggest the therapy route and it wouldn't hurt to see a counselor on your own for professional advice on how to improve your relationship. I've seen a counselor off and on for fifteen years and it's been a wonderful resource for me in improving my own relationship skills. I love it. I really miss my last counselor since I moved. He was the BEST ONE YET! My fiance and I have agreed that we are going to a marriage counselor BEFORE we have any problems...just to keep our relationship on the right track and improve our skills. My sister and her husband have seen one from the very beginning, and have a WONDERFUL relationship. Good luck.