[Misty]

When I read your message, I see two very tired, overworked people, both in need of a little understanding and relaxation. Maybe a weekend away could relieve a little stress?

It sounds like you are looking for a "traditional" marriage... since that isn't what you have, you have two choices: get out and get the traditional marriage you want or work with what you have. Since you love your wife, why not work with what you've got? Try to put aside your ideas of what a marriage "should" be and find ways to make this one work. Why should the wife do all the cooking? If we're talking traditional, a traditional wife doesn't work, yet yours does. She works very hard, very long hours. Why should she also kill herself at home? Why not find a way to make you both happy... maybe take turns cooking, or do as Angie suggested and use crockpot cooking and/or once a month cooking. I also think Angie's suggestion to hire a housekeeper is a good one.

You are both working hard and you both deserve time to relax. Oh, and another thing... (forgive me if I'm out of line) it seems you think your wife is to blame for all your problems. Maybe you should try looking at things from her point of view? And, as for slamming doors and kicking walls, only you are responsible for your actions... you can't really blame her for that!

Good luck... and cheating isn't the answer!
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