[rosslyn]

i do hate it when i get nasty comments just after my twins were born we were in the shopping mall and we had all our children with us and a woman came right up to us and asked if they were all ours dh whisperd to me to let him handle it he yes yes they are all ours she went on to say dont you have a tv in your house dh said yes we do and i think it was down to the tv that we have so many kids she looked at him puzzled and he said you see if there wernt so many soft porm films on tv late at night we may not have so many kids well she didnt say any more her face went rather red and she walked away lol

[Alejandros Mommy]

oh that is funny!

[mcmama]

They want too much information, they get too much information!!!!

[Tracey with 6]

some times I tell them my husband is hot in bed

[Samual]

There is something I am very curious about, why do people mainly old ladies give people nasty comments for having what they believe to be many children, but they praise people who have adopted many children, it's totally rediculous. Plus there is that fact that most of the people who judge are old and come from a time when 6 children in a family was common and considered the norm.

[JeanLynn81]

Samual I think I can answer that. Back in "the olden days" they didn't have birth control like we do now!

That's not to say that they have a right to make nasty comments-no one does. But that's why larger families were more common back then.

[scottiegazelle]

Browsing and I found this thread...the ones that bug me the most are from family. It was bad enough from my mom, who told me while I was pregnant with #3 "don't you think it's about time to stop being pregnant now?" I looked her in the eye and said, "I'm not quite far enough along for that to happen." I think she hated being a mom - or at least disliked it - and she projects that I am really miserable or something. The other end of the spectrum is dh's grandmother, who had 7 kids plus a ton of foster kids. At DS' birthday party, she was talking about how it is just too hard to have so many kids and we should stop (we've had one more since, nyah nyah nyah [okay, just kidding, but it makes my blood boil]) and not have so many kids. Later, I decided I should have asked her which of her 7+ she would have given back. I saw that posted on a thread somewhere and I think that is what I'm going to do for the next nasty comment: line my kids up and ask which one they think I should give back.
Another good one to fall back on: well, you know, it only takes once to get pregnant!
I like the outbreed the idiots line, too.

[NYMom]

Originally Posted by rosslyn

i do hate it when i get nasty comments just after my twins were born we were in the shopping mall and we had all our children with us and a woman came right up to us and asked if they were all ours dh whisperd to me to let him handle it he yes yes they are all ours she went on to say dont you have a tv in your house dh said yes we do and i think it was down to the tv that we have so many kids she looked at him puzzled and he said you see if there wernt so many soft porm films on tv late at night we may not have so many kids well she didnt say any more her face went rather red and she walked away lol

Our Internet was out and we needed a service call from the provider. When the really nice fella came to fix things he wanted to be certain we received the best connection with only needed/working tv's hooked into the system. He asked how many tv's we have. We have one I told him. He was standing in my family room by the family portrait of the eight of us........ "You only have ONE television???" He asked. I explained that while we had only one, it was a 65" and didn't that count for something? I apparently missed the whole concept that we, uh, needed more televisions. .
When he asked me to log on to the Internet on any computers we had it was bedlam as each and every kid "called" a computer to get out, turn on, and connect to the Internet. "I call mommy's silver Toshiba." "Ok, I call the black one." "I'm getting Daddy's work laptop, will you get the Compaq?" "I can't yet, I'm getting the two downstairs......." The tech just stood there in amazement as all these computers started appearing. It was hysterical!
We get those odd questions, too. Some of mine are adopted and I find that people find it more acceptable or ok to have them since their adopted. Like we're saving the world and that's why we adopted them. Not. So now we don't disclose that unless we feel comfortable doing it. The kids prefer to NOT tell. They all look like they're bio kids, and they love to see folks noddin' and countin' as they all walk by. We often have my niece and nephew as well, so there's often eight kids....... my mom always said if they're talking about me then they're leaving some other poor soul alone.

[NavGabeShiJude]

Okay... I am so so so glad that I am not the only one that has things said to me!
Whenever I am out and about with the children... 4 + 8 months pregnant with twins.... I get comments, dirty looks, and people actually turn away from me and my children.
I have had women tell me that I am irrisponsible and one woman (whom I had to strongly resist the urge to slap) informed me that my children could never hope to be anything more then drug dealers and delinquents.
I looked down at my children. Judah and Shiloh were sitting quietly in the double buggy looking at picture books, Gabriel was holding onto the left side of the buggy and Nava was holding onto the right. They hadn't been making a fuss, and they were actually looking sightly alarmed as a mother with one child dragged that boy kicking and screaming out of the mall.
I told her that my children were very well behaved, and that i would pray for any of her children because the standards they must have had to live up to would have driven me to drink!
The kicker was that Judah (12 months then) gave the lady a sweet smile and said 'hi hi' and she just glared at him. My sweet little baby had more manners then this grown woman.

My family has been known to make comments as well. It started with my first child. I have always wanted children, but my DH did not. I married him knowing that I would probably never have children.
Well it was only a few months into our marriage that he changed his mind (through no coercion of mine) and said he wanted to have a child.
Well everyone was in shock when I fell pregnant with Nava, and then when I became pregnant with Gabriel they all commented on how close they would be. Then along came Shiloh and I could see everyone cringing at the numbers growing.
I didn't even tell anyone that we were pregnant with Judah until it was pretty obvious.... my mom told me I should be done now.... I just smiled at her.
With the twins, it is assumed in my family that we are done.... like after twins you would be crazy to continue, but really.... if I am given a gift of a child after the twins... I will never deny it!
People never say anything to my husband when he is out with the children... they think it is lovely that a father spends time with his children... but when I am with him and they comment I just pat him on the chest and say 'who can resist this stud?' that will usually keep them quiet! lol.

[22erw13]

Oh, it's so nice to hear that i'm not the only one that gets these comments. I'll be having my fourth. And if it's not family saying "don't you know what causes that" or "wow, how are you ever going to handle that many" or " Are they all yours, and then when they see my pregnant I get that so sorry look. like i'm dying or some thing".
I try to ignore it but it's gets old, espicaially when you hear it from family.