[baby_girl_thug15]

Ok well let me start out by saying that i love my b/f more than anything. Well when we first started going out 3 years ago things were lets just say not so great we fought all the time and he wasnt very nice emotionaly well there was this one girl we'll call her Eva well my bf and i were dating for about a year a eva decided that she liked my bf and that she wanted him for her. well he started liking her and cheated on me with her when i found out i was crushed and very mad well i was going to confront her and when i did she told my b/f and he came up to me and got all pissed with me.well stupid me kept trying to make things work with him. i realize now that that is when I should have left. Well we now have a 13month old son and a daughter on the way. Well now I have told him not to talk to eva and he doesnt see what the big deal is but to me its she is the reason he cheated on me the first time and i just dont want anything like that to happen again. Am i wrong in asking him not to talk to her? or being all parinord sp? he has lied about talking to her many of times and it seems now that he doesnt anymore but i still get sick to my stomach when i think about him even looking at her. Am i just crazy plz help me out.

[VinniesMommy]

You are not wrong AT ALL for not wanting him to talk to her. She caused a SERIOUS strain in your relationship. But you should also figure out how much you trust him in general. I'm not trying to be mean at all, please don't take this that way, but if someone cheated on me, I would NEVER trust them again and trust is a HUGE part of a relationship. Try to sit down with him and talk to him about it, one on one, no fighting or yelling or anything. Explain to him why it means so much to you that he not talk to her and how you feel about it all. Maybe he just doesn't get it? Guys can be very clueless

[slygirrl]

Ya know what? I'm in this position right now and the "friend" led to me and my husband separating. Are you wrong for telling him to stop talking to her? Absolutely not, BUT be advised just because he says he won't talk to her doesn't mean he won't. Mine said the same thing and all he did was keep her number in his cell phone under his best friend's name cause I didn't know his friend's cell phone number. It's a sticky situation altogether and I have been in your shoes, only I didn't know mine cheated on me with her until this year. (He lied about it for 2 years) If you trust him and were able to move past the cheating thing more power to you, but I couldn't and can't, so don't trust just because he agrees to it that he will actually follow through, my impending divorce is living proof that they don't always do what they say they're going to do. I hope this post didn't sound nasty but topics like that touch a nerve (obviously) since that's why my marriage is coming to an end. Keep your guard up that's all I can really advise you to do.

[Alejandros Mommy]

Can I ask....what are you reasons for staying with him? If the bad outweighs the good you need to make a choice, however hard it may be.

[TheNewbie]

WHOOOO. Girlie you are better than me. I think that is so messed up. You know deep down you deserve better and yes it is easier to say it than to actually do something about it. i know you have to take the kids into consideration but you should move on. If he is not willing to stop seeing or looking or talking to that *****, well then you should let him go because he is not willing to move on and be the father and BF he needs to be. Its time to grow up and take care of business. Let him Go mami

[MissyChrissy]

She is not the reason he cheated-HE is. You have every right to expect him to cut off all ties with her. Between that and the fact that he's lied about ANYTHING-much less talking to her-well, they are major red flags. He will continue to treat you this way as long as you allow it. You MUST put your foot down & leave him if he continues speaking with her. If you lose him, you haven't lost much to begin with. There's the possibility you're leaving would be a wake-up call, but if he really doesn't get why you're upset about his continued contact with her, then he obviously has no respect for your feelings, or much intelligence. You're much better off without him.

Please don't make the mistake of thinking you can't find someone who will truly love you for yourself. Whatever you would expect for your daughter as far as a partner is no less than what you deserve for yourself. Think about her in your situation. What would you tell her? Follow that advice.

(((HUGS)))

[QueenAngie]

Some men think they can have their cake and eat it too.

You have given this man one child and another child is on the way.
To me, I woud expect and want his friendship, fidelity, and be honest enough to drop this girl on the side.