[ornurse32]

I need some advice and opinions on a touchy subject. I am a wife, mother, career oriented, attractive and outgoing person, but I am also a smoker. I am a closet smoker, and my kids don't know (NEVER in a car or around them!), my family knows but I still don't do it around them and I smoke less then 10 ciggs a day. The problem???

When my husband and I met we both smoked. I quit for the majority of my pregnancies and with the last one my husband quit for good. That was 3 years ago. I started up again (remember I am NOT a heavy smoker and do NOT expose my kids or anyone for that matter to it, and always outside) when I was done breastfeeding, my husband didn't. I managed to keep it a secret for about 1 1/2 years as he has sinus issues and not the best sense of smell and always waited until he left the house and such.

Over the last few months he has caught me outside a few times and now he insists that I give him a date when I will quit and stick to it, or basically he will divorce me.

We haven't really had any other issues in our marriage and like I said, he has NOTHING else to complain about. I take care of myself, am a great mother, earn a great living, don't drink, don't go out, plan parties for him and the kids, spend time with both our families, volunteer for the homeless, the list goes on and on...not to mention we have an active sex life (when he is not sick...he is chronically ill). I have put up with so much from him to make a great life for us that I feel this is very unfair of him. Am I the wrong one? I know smoking is NOT good for me, but it is my stress relief and my ONLY bad habit....I am hurt and confused. He told me that he wants an answer tonight and that if I have to think about it, I am the one with the problem because he has waited 3 years for me to give it up.

Don't hold back on your replies, I need objective honesty. Thanks!